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-topics i used
-movies, news, the environment like signs and halls. and only asked her 3 questions in 45min
There's your problem.
Your anger shouldn't be directed at her, she was just standing there. It should be directed towards yourself.
NEWS? SIGNS? Come on.
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Yeah i am mad at myself for not knowing what the right things to say to a shy girl, so i said they fucked me over because im used to girls who offer at least 1 or 2 short comments on what i say and then i can build on those comments. the title is just to grab attention.
In other words I'm very open to all help and will not reject it just because I messed up the PU. It is my fault.
You want to get her talking? Ask her QUESTIONS about shit she CARES ABOUT.
Dunno what she cares about? ASK HER!
For example, you can start off with some kind of story or something that gets her a bit interested and laughing (always have some DHV stories in the back of your mind in case). Then, you can talk about something you're really passionate about, like you play music or something. If she plays too or likes the same music, boom, you got a conversation going. If not, just say "haha I went on a bit there, but it's because I'm so passionate about my music, I can talk for HOURS! I love people who are really into at least one cool thing. What are you passionate about?"
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Very nice thanks. The only problem i see here is that she can pull the "I don't know how to sum this up card" and shy girls are very good at this. They know good ways to cover up their shyness by admitting that they don't want to think about it or bother summing it up or that the question is too difficult for them to answer on the spot.
I think a good way to overcome the "can't make up my mind" shit from shy chicks is to give them 2 or 3 options to choose from and then building on why they chose that answer. If she continues to not want to make a decision then i can neg her indirectly by saying "okay this time ill lower the options to 2, a simple true or false test like the ones in junior high school." basically implying she cannot makeup her mind for crap.
Notice how this is a qualification question. You're saying you like people who have something they're really into, and then you're asking her what she's into. By answering "nothing" she's basically saying she's boring. By answering ANYTHING she's tacitly saying that she's the kind of girl you should be into.
Also, she may have just been FUCKING BORING. Just cuz a girl is hot doesn't mean she's interesting, believe me. But however boring a girl is, you can always get her to talk about herself if you ask the right questions. EVERYONE loves talking about themselves.
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Any techniques on asking the right questions quicker? I know it will be different for every girl, but if there is a technique to identify what a girl could be interested in without asking her a million times would be cool. If not I'll stick to your earlier point of throwing a DHV to force her into answering a question.
That DHV force to answer technique is SO pure gold. Christ if I had known it before this I would have been laying this shy chick at this point. I would have opened her mind as wide as her legs could open that night. Hell everything i said about stupid movies and the news and things around us I could have turned into some fake ass DHV story lol.
"check out that sign, my buds and I once found a sign like that and decorated it with a bunch of stuff just to be creative. I like creative people, what creative things can you do?" obviously it's a bullshit story I came up with in 3 seconds LOL. "look at this hall, it looks like it came out of a horror movie. my buds and I spent halloween in this fucked up house and had to stay in there and scare people the most creative way possible. we had so much fun being creative and shit. What fun/creative stuff are you into?"
the beauty of this is that you can come up with the fake DHVs on the spot.
LOL omg i love this DHV sneaking the question technique because honestly I FUCKING HATE asking a million questions like if interviewing.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
@Tyras
Like some DHV's will work too, thanks man. Or interesting news like a crazed maniac SPAM millions of dollars.
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or retarded (thats why she let you intrude her private space)
I always intrude girl's space as much as possible while assuming rapport.
I don't ask "is that a good book" then take her book off her hands or open the book while in her hands
I'll say "the research chart is in page 13" reach for the book and grab it "it's just talking about the last point made in drug research" open the book and grab it off. see how I sneak myself in?
I use a story to get their mind thinking pictures and they don't even have time to think why the fuck is this guy going through my book or phone or necklace or jewelery or backpack or hand bag. Their brain gets them thinking that I'm one of the people she knows.
Ever heard of it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, acts like a duck, its a fucking duck! Well act like someone who is her friend, talk like you're her friend, and move like one of her friends you'll be labeled her fucking friend LOL. It's rare that some chick says FUCK OFF.