Wonder if you awesome guys out there can help me?...

Got a specific sticking point with this girl; I'm trying to get her to talk dirty (either sexting or on the phone) but she keeps 'bailing' at the last minute.

She'll start with all the sexy banter, bang on about being horny and how she wants to meet me n' shit but won't get explicit with the banter.

Of course, if she wasn't 8,000 miles away I'd just meet her but as it is that ain't gonna happen.

I'm moving on to local girls but this one is REALLY keen and keeps messaging me so I just want to get as much learning value out of this as I can, especially as she's exhibiting what I assume is a common objection.

My goal is to get comfortable and adept at talking dirty and escalating in general, I'm not used to it, still a virgin. It doesn't phase or embarrass me, I just want to get good at it so when it counts I can deliver without looking like a fool.

Here's an excerpt from a convo we had:

Me: If I was there with you I'd show you what I thought of your enthusiasm
Girl: Oh really? Im special enough for <my name>?
Me: that depends…what would you do for me, how would you make it special for us?
Girl: Id light a candle haha.
Me: shame…you'll have to do better than that
Girl: Ill actually care about you? Ha and it wont be just meaningless sex.
Me: you're getting warmer…what would you do to me, what would you have be my first experience to remember with you?
Girl: Its not something you can explain. I gotta go though. Dinner with family.

Whether she HAD to leave or chose to in order to avoid the conversation, I don't know, I'm assuming the latter.

To be clear, she has at every turn initiated the topic of sex. Clearly she isn't quite comfortable enough to talk dirty, or tell me what she wants to do to me.

How can I best get over this hurdle, I must be doing something wrong?

Thanks for your help guys.

Hal

Ur tryin to hard to get her to talk dirty. U have to let her fell like she is the one tryin to gt u to talk dirty. Like she is the horny 1. When she says she is horny it's to tease u bc u can't have it. So look I've found a way round that. Tell her u wanna get to know her better. Her guard is up so b aware of that. Tell her u don't feel it's right to have sex no matter how romantic without at least knowin someone. Then use every single question depending on her comfort level wit u by this point is from this site http://www.lovepanky.com/men/guy-talk/2 ... ask-a-girl
By the time u have used every question she will be dying to have phone sex sextin or even send naked pics it has worked every single time I've used it. Have fun Broski and good luck



Vein

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Vein, awesome thank you!

Of course, it makes sense now...she's been trying to bait me the whole time and by asking her to talk dirty I'm taking the bait.

You're saying I need to keep the dominant frame and bait her back by making her horny.

That link is really helpful, I'm copying that into my "pickup swipe file"

Thanks again dude.

Hal

No problem dude let me know how it worked out for u

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any man can sweep any woman off her feet. just need the right broom

Vein, HAD, literally HAD to write a reply to you...

That stuff is like dynamite, I'm not joking...worked like gangbusters.

Each question got her more and more crazy horny "kiss me" this, "marry me" that (that one freaked me out, had to deflect that bullet haha), "I like this" etc.

I had to stop after 10 or so of the questions because by that point she was very horny, but also kinda drunk.

If we'd been in person I'd have cut short her drinking but as it was over IM I didn't know until it was too late and didn't want her to get buyers remorse in the morning.

I'm not in this to take advantage of drunk girls so I told her "no more sex talk. go to bed." to which she said "ok"

Hopefully, I'm thinking when she rereads the conversation she'll look like the "aggressor" and I'll come across as chivalrous (which I was trying to be) and dominant.

Thanks for your awesome help!

Hal

As an added bonus, just got completely unrequested nude pics...

Starting to feel a bit like a Jedi LOL

Hal

ITs really easy man!

You either tell her that you 2 should play truth or dare and that she can start. Then you start with really simple light questions..
Whats your favorite food? If you could wake up anywhere in the world, were would it be?

And then you start with... When was your first kiss? Whats the max amount of guys you kissed in one night?
If you could choose between sex with a rebuild girl to a boy or a boy to a girl wich one would it be?

And then start escalating more and more..

Or play the 20 question game and then ask more daring questions after a few easy ones.