Hey guys, so i'm 20 years old, and am in college. I've met this girl in class and have been gaming her. She's an 8.5. I've used many of the tools given from the mystery method. I've negged her, used false-disqualifiers, acted cocky-funny as well. I also have high social proof at my school, especially in class. I've acted as the "prize" as well.

I asked her to hang out last weekend, and she said "perhaps" and told me to text her. I did, but she said she was too busy.

So i've seen her in class and have begun starting building rapport, but i still don't know if it's going anywhere. We do flirt a lot, but I still don't feel the correct vibe.

I've yet to hang out with her alone, but our comfort levels, both physically and mentally are both there.

I wouldn't want to ask her to hang out again, because that would DLV me and would seem needy.

I just don't know what to do next.... Any ideas???
Please let me know. Thanks!

well y don't u ask her to come with you to something that you are still going to go to whether or not she comes

What about something right after class, somewhere on campus.
Maybe flirt a little before class is done and invite her to come along to this random other thing that you were going to anyway, and have a mini date right there.

I know your intent is to get this particular girl, but it sounds like oneitis to me. this girl sucks. she doesnt want to be around you and doesnt deserve your time. you are fun. she wants her friend's approval. she's a cute babe and a dicktease.

My advice is to find another girl.


And I'm not saying this to completely get you to move on because we all want what we cant have. She will too. If she realizes she cant have you because you spend your time with girls that are more fun and love life and are HOTTER than her, she'll want you even more. Using this strategy is great because if you fail at getting her to like you, you still win because you picked up hot chicks.

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If you don't want to DLV by asking her to hang out again, you just have to change the scenario a little bit. Plan on hanging out with a bunch of friends, preferably guys and girls, and ask if she'd like to join in, or if you wanna neg a bit about it, ask if she'd like to "tag along." This isn't supposed to be a ploy, legit find a party on a friday night or something and plan on goin there with your friends whether she comes or not. If you say "tag along," not only are you telling her you're going either way, but you're making it sound like you're doing her a favor by letting her be in your presence.

This also helps with the possible one-itis. Because Spread had a point, you are focusing a lot on her when she isn't reciprocating that much. If you go out with your buddies, anyways, you should be fully prepared to run game on other girls you meet when you're out and about.

Sounds like oneitis. And i bet you know what the cure for that is.. But either way you shouldnt ASK her you should TELL her. Alot of girls can say no even if they dont want to if you ask them.

yea I had a feeling that I got into oneitis.. I'll ask her to "tag along" when I'm going to a party with my friends. Thanks for the advice.

I had the same issue once too in university.
I asked her once or twice (can't remeber) and she said no. Like you, i felt the connection, felt rapport and everything was going to plan but she didn't want to hang out.

So, this is what i said to get her to hang out
"Ok, how bout instead of hanging out, just ice cream after class?" and it worked!!! Soon after, we were having lunch every time after class and it was f-close anytime I wanted it to be (got a gf soon after so yea, didn't exercise that f-close)

Anyways, this is what I read in a book. In short, it said that everyone will tend to accept something when a person gives them a second option/drawback/sacrifice. For example: "hey can I get you to fill in the shift for me?" *uhh.. I really can't* "okok, how about instead of the shift, what about just coming early by a hour or two" *that sounds fine, i can do that*

When doing this, the book argues that the person feels more obliged unconsciously to accept your second offer (the drawback/sacrifice) given it's less significance. I've been using this tool not only with girls but other aspects of my life and so far it's been working.

Anyways back to the original scenario. I suggest you may want to ask her to go out to have lunch and if she says no, say "instead of lunch how about coffee after class?". Hopefully it'll work for you as it did for me bro;)

but even if you use a method like the above, and she was reluctant to accept the first offer and feels more obliged to take you up on the second, isn't that still kinda going against her will?

i mean if she didnt wanna hang out with u for the first circumstance she probably still doesnt wanna hang out with you for the second but feels bad and wants to settle for the second.

i mean i have a girl who it has been going fairly well with.. we have hooked up a couple of times already, see each other quite a bit and talk nearly everyday. but she hasnt been reciprocating as much as id like her to.

shes really good sometimes, shed be so flirty with me and kino me all the time. and other days she'd be somewhat distant.

im not sure how to handle this.. should i back away and become unavailable, let her see im seeking other girls who will give me what i want? orjust give it time? i dont know what to work on to make her absolutely crazy for me

being a pua is about volume.. i agree with the move on..

but if i was working this girl i would try and build the relationship you have with her with another girl in class.. spread your love around and let her know shes not that special

to Rain: Yea, your absolutely right. It prb doesn't help you attract her any more but gives you an opportunity to go out and know each other a bit more. An opportunity right? I would just suggest go for another girl and game her later. No point wasting time on one girl.