hey folks,

I'm a lurker who's been learning a lot from the forum, and trying out what I learn. I've come into an interesting situation where I dont know what to do next, so help a brother out here!

There's a girl at work, we went out once 3 weeks ago, it was a really fun evening for both of us, with minor touching, but really just good conversation. She then asked me to join her after dinner for a movie with some other colleagues. Conversation was a mix of work and personal, leaning heavily towards the latter.

I was then away for 2 weeks and tonight we went out again, this time just me and her dinner, drinks and a movie. I started escalating kino early in the evening and keep thigns flirty. Conversation was however not always light since we're both workaholics and ended up talking abotu work now and then. In the movie i escalated kino further, face, knee etc. She didn't seem to shy away as such but didn't reciprocate either. We live in the same hotel (travelling for work), came back and took the elevator up to our rooms, in the elevator I felt like I should'Ve gone in for a kiss, but wasnt sure what to do since I dont want to make things weird at work if she wasnt interested.

I think she's interested, but not sure how to make the next move. My first time trying anything with a girl at work (usually the place is a sausagefest) - so any ideas would be really welcome!

If you're not somewhat experienced with women, I'd advise against going the coworker route. Either way, worst that happens is you make an awkward move, you get rejected, dont pressure her afterwards or push it, and maybe things will just be awkward at work. You're not gonna get written up at work or fired for trying to kiss a coworker outside of work. Let me just say that before the urban legends start. If she's cool with going out with you alone, just make a move as you would a regular girl.As always, meet girls in other situations as well.

Its usually not worth it man.

Dealing with girls at work and bring on a range of situations that no one is really prepared to deal with. I had girls completely blow up on me randomly and start yelling in front of everyone in the past. Just pure pent up emotion, and then you have the girl that you accidentally fall for and you have to be around her and see her every day.

The risk isn't worth the reward in this case.

If you wanna find out for yourself though, as we all do then go for it. You don't need advice, you just need to take action. Invite her out again.;. Text her " What are you doing tonight ".. Followed up by " Alright.. Lets get drinks " after she responds. And this time actually make a move.

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hey guys! thanks for the answers.

a (confusing) update from me in the meanwhile. I didn't really do much after that other date, but we made vague plans about meeting this week that same night. This week I was busy and didnt bother approaching her. On tuesday after work she messaged asking to meet, I ignored it because I was at the gym and also didnt want to seem desp. She then called me which I saw a few minutes later, and I called back. She asked if I wanted to meet and I told her I was busy but she should keep her evening free the next day, which she agreed to. I sent her a flirty slightly cheesy good night message later.

Next day we ended up going out for dinner with 2 other colleagues (kinda like a double date but no one mentioned that) - it was a chill evening, but not much kino or flirting during dinner because colleagues. We head back to the hotel and as we're nearing the elevators she suggests getting another drink at the bar. At this point I'm totally planning to go in for the kill. So we ditch the others and go to get drinks. We start talking and getting comfortable and before I could say much she mentions that she recently got a boyfriend... i told her that was cool and pretended to be happy for her (dint really know what to say) and then continued talking about other stuff as if it wasnt such a big deal. Was a bit bummed and didnt make a move. At some point (not sure if it was before or after she told me, i was a bit tipsy) she got really close while talking to me, but nothing happened. As we were heading up I mentioned somehting about how coming to work was going to be a bit lame now that she has a boyfriend (AFC a bit i know, but squeezed it into some other semi sarcastic funny stuff)

I kinda withdrew within my mind, figured if she is seeing someone theres no point for me to chase it. So I get to work today, and she's upped the flirting, and touching and everything even in the office (Was play chasing me through the office too).

Got no read on this. Is she now playing because she knows she can flirt to her hearts content and if i make a move I'm the dick who kissed her even though I know she has a boyfriend? What's my next move?

THANKS!

Your next move is to meet women on your way to work, meet women after work, meet women on your lunch time, meet women on weekends, meet women when you're doing errands. You get the point. One-itus is bad enough as it is, but now you're contracting one-itus with a girl who claims to have a new bf and who is a co-worker. Double whammy. Move on in your mind and in your actions.