Hey guys,
I've met this great woman half a year ago. We randomly met each other at parties and stuff, i thought she was cool and cute. I remember inviting her to a concert i played. She showed up with a friend (he's gay by the way) and seemed into me when we talked later. When we talked the guy "accidentally" brought up the topic she would go visit my hometown. She wanted to know if I was there around that time - I was gone traveling though. After I returned we met accidentally and she dropped the topic one more time, since she was coming to the city again and we agreed to meet this time. She's a professional dancer and i knew she was working with a company for a week.
After the date of her arrival i waited 2 days to check if she'd hit me up and finally decided to contact her myself. We set up a date. When we met she brought two of her friends from the company along which was a little disappointing at first. We spent an awesome evening though and she seemed pretty interested in me. She asked a lot of questions, wanted to know all my music taste and took notes of everything she wanted to check out. Since she asked me to give her a lesson (I'm guitarist and she's playing a bit too) we met the next day. She seemed even more into me, tried super hard being a good student (and being cute too i felt). She brought some beers along and we chilled until the middle of the night. We had super interesting topics and she shared some of here secrets with me. I took her home and it seemed we'd not see each other for a month since she had plans to travel the next day. I earned a big kiss on my cheek. Next day she texted me she'd stay another night and she'd be "sooo up for another lesson. but only if you're dying to do it
". We agreed on meeting later. When it started to rain she invited me over to the place she stayed at instead of going to the city. We spent hours of playing, talking, listening music. After midnight she asked if I wanted to go out. She seemed really insecure, always checking if i didn't have any other plans. But we did of course, having lots of fun. She asked me to walk her home since it was on my way. it was around 5 am when we arrived. since my first bus as well as hers would go at 6 am we figured i'd just stay with her and we'd keep each other awake. she had to pack her stuff and put on a song for me to listen to that she said she found "almost orgasmic". when she was done with everything we had 15 more minutes and listened some of the song again together. you can call me an idiot, but it was just super romantic to me and i didn't care for having sex with her or anything. anyways there was so little time. when we said goodbye she set up a deal: "so i will sleep on the bus to berlin and you will sleep at home. and whoever wakes up first texts the other one ok?" we hugged each other 2 times. the third time i bit her neck. when i turned round she gave me a little spank and so did i. in front of the door we hugged each other one more time and i kissed her on the lips. i left for the bus while she was throwing a glance after me until i was gone.
i texted her when i woke up and she responded. after two days i felt i'd text her again, she responded, nice as always (using the nickname "monkey" she gave me again). then i thought it was about time for her to be proactive. i didn't here anything for weeks. not even when she returned from her travels.
after she must have been home for a week already i texted her again. she was nice as always, calling me monkey and everything, talked about an intense period of time (work), but didn't really seem to care about meeting me. after another week i set up a date. it was kinda cool. i felt it was irritating that she was talking about a friend (another gay friend of hers), mentioning he was probably around and called him if he wanted to join. he wasn't and we spent the time alone. it was flirty and everything i guess (she told me about some fantasies she wanted to try with her next bf for instance), just not as intense as the last time. when we said good bye we talked about a couple of options where we'd meet again (goin swimming if the weather was right, at a performance, she said she'd love to go to a concert, as well as she told me about a movie which she still hadn't seen)
couple of days ago i asked her out for the movie and we went yesterday. there she started the yes/no-game -.-
first she asked if we could change the spot where we wanted to meet so she could see a common friend of ours (at least for 15 mins before the movie) who she hadn't seen in months. we did and i was glad she didnt ask her to come along. since there was a mistake on the website the movie wasn't on, so we wen't back to our friend though. when we left the movie theater she said "now i'll have to watch the movie when i go back home in two weeks.". i said we could still download and watch it, but since she didn't respond more than "yeah sure" and we we're on our way back to our friend i didn't push it any further. she mentioned another movie thing that was going on on the next day, almost inviting me, but we didn't make any fix plans. when we got back i was lucky our friend had to leave after 10 mins, it was the two of us again. when it started raining i asked if we should go to my place and still with the movie, but she hesitated and responded it'd get very late (well yeah at was 11pm already). we hung out til 1am and had interesting and fun talks.
she then mentioned she went swimming earlier this day. i wasn't really sure why she wouldn't ask me to join although we almost planned going together. yet she told me she went. i took it as a hint and told her to hit me up if she'd go again before she'd leave traveling to another country for a performance. she was like "yeah sure, i just don't know if there's enough time. but maybe on tuesday. maybe with [our common friend]". we talked about what we would do tomorrow, but she didn't bring up the movie thing she mentioned earlier again. i said we'd probably meet after her return (which will be in a month again) and she was like "yeah.. but maybe we still go swimming on tuesday. so no big good-byes for now.." then suddenly she said - referring to the movie we were about to see - "maybe we should save the movie and still watch it together.. but no if you wanna watch it you don't have to wait." i responded "if you save it, i save it". she hesitated, i replied "well we don't have to", smiling. "lets leave it open" were her last words.
guys i fuckin hate this "i want and i don't want". shes a great person and everything seemed easy until we couldn't see each other for a month just after getting close for the first time. it doesn't seem like she's really getting proactive. is it worth the effort? is it probably over already?
thanks for your help!
(by the way: she told me she had been single for 5 years. sounded like she was tryin to say it was about time again)
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