| If you observe women talking in documentaries, it will come down to three main points:
1. Women often feel sexuality is dominated by male desire. The women say they are in the passive roles, being the object of lust. They say the sexual balance is unequal because the culture says it is okay for males to project their desires upon women.
2. However, women also use sexuality as a strategic tool. "If you have sex too early, the boy gets what he wants. If you have sex later on in the relationship, the girl gets what she wants." Basically sex no longer resolves around their individual desire to enjoy their bodies and experience pleasure. Instead sex becomes some game to break the man's will and "gain the upper hand".
This female approach to sex is the reason sexuality is often not about authentic enjoyment to females. They think they can use the promise of sex to tie / bind a boy to them, and if it doesn't work out they grow bitter and resent the society for being too focused on male sexual preferences. "Men are all pigs" etc.
3. Women call each other sluts more so than men do. This too has an obvious strategic reason. The first one is: They hate openly seductive women who approach males and embrace their own sexuality. The women instinctually sense that this makes more sex available on the sexual marketplace. Then sex as a commodity loses some of its value as a means to trade with men for power and wealth. Hence the saying: "Men love younger women for sex and women love older men for money."
Due to the value of sex within the sexual marketplace, females resent the sexually active women and call them "sluts" to shame them. It is actually females who repress female sexual desire more so than men do.
The second reason girls call each other "slut" is to make men consider this potential rival differently. Men will go around thinking of this woman, if they hear the rumours of her slut-hood: "She is not relationship material."
Note that a woman takes nine months to complete one pregnancy, whereas a man can fertilize many women within a short time span. This means that evolution dictates women have to be picky to find a partner that will provide for them and their child in their vulnerable moment. Whereas men have to be not-picky to have a maximum spread of genes.
It also means men are more replaceable and disposable than women are. The same women who complain about the sexual projections on females by fashion and porn are the women who complain men are overrepresented in management boards (even though women more often than men choose to work part-time). However they never complain that men are over-represented among miners, lumberjacks, bodyguards and prison guards (because men are replacable).
Considering the previous three points we have to draw the following conclusion:
Women have the tendency to frame themselves as "being the victim and deserving pity" for being considered as objects to project (male) desire upon. For instance: "Not all women can be so skinny as those models, so we suffer and become insecure."
However, women have in fact all the power of sexual selection. The sexual process means waiting for the woman to give a man the signal: "You can approach". Then the man has to approach her and keep responding to the signals. If he does not mess up (like by telling lame jokes or talking about sex too early in their interaction), then he will eventually get to kiss, sleep with her or form a couple with her.
Note that:
Since women expect the man to make the first move, the man in doing so opens himself up to being rejected and with that to the psychological pain caused by it. The woman always stays safe unless she enters a dark alleyway in a ghetto.
[II] It will always be the woman who gives green light or red light for the romantic approach, the relationship, or the sex.
[III] Therefore the woman has all the power within the process of sexual selection. With the exception of rape in which a man has sex with a woman against her intent. However rape laws are so severe against men that this only increases the power of women. Men don't dare to advance because if he lays his hands on her there is always the threat that this man will be considered a pervert. However if he doesn't make this physical contact (kino), he will lose too because the woman will think he's not man enough to advance - not dominant enough. But if he actually does touch her and she yells: "Hands off you sicko" then all her friends will give him the mean look and they become sexually off-limits to him too.
Emotionally the culture is in the disadvantage of men. This is proven by the following scenario. You have one or a few dates with a woman, and one of them ends in sex. Now let's say the next day you wake up and see this woman sleeping next to you, her chest reverberating as she breathes, the early morning sun playing in her messy hair. You feel totally in love and make breakfast for her. She says: "Nah. This was just an adventure. My life's too serious for a relationship right now." Then you, being the man, have to just take it. You had your sex, you had what you were supposed to want, and now you just have to man up, take responsibility and get out of her way. Because that's what you do if you're a man: you have to lay your emotions aside. Since society pretty much accepted that men aren't as emotionally deep-feeling or vulnerable as women are (even though many of the most talented and moving poets in history were males but okay).
Whereas, if the same would happen to the woman, then it is considered "okay" for her to show up in office with a cranky mood, complain about this man to her friends, and shout around phrases like: "All men are pigs. They are opportunists and just want sex! He used me! How dare he to use me!"
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