A friend of mine (rick) had this eastern europe couchsurfer (sofia) over at his home. So he invited me to do some tourist stuff when I told him I was extremely bored, and as I met the girl it immediately felt natural. I didn't flirt during the day as we climbed up the church, walked across the market and had some coffee. It was all pretty calm and relaxed, just casual conversation. Afterwards Rick invited me to come over for dinner the same evening.

I got there around 6 PM, and help made dinner along with rick, rick's girlfriend and a roommate of ricks'. Sofia got back from visiting the hague and we start eating with some wine. Afterwards we start playing a card game in which we make up everything and she loses every time. Suddenly 6 guys enter the room and start cooking. The living room is crowded and I can't sit or stand natural near Sofia. I hang out with the new guys. The guys were extremely boring and I was happy when they left. We sat at the table again and Sofia and me were having conversation and the other three people were kinda talking on their own. It was pretty easy talking to Sofia because If I asked one question she went on for about 5-10 minutes and I found out she is very interesting and intelligent. You wouldn't say by looking at her, she was extremely sexy and maybe a little bit tacky.

I tell her someone asked me to celebrate jesus' birthday today, which was weird because it's march 14th.
"How old was he, 20-30"?
"No he was like 50 or something"
"Hahaha maybe he thought hey hello cute young guy and he was a pervert"
I thought of this as an indicator of interest, and was not quite sure how to respond. I smiled.

She keeps talking and talking and I occasionally look at her lips. I get turned on after a while and get distracted by her small but nice body. She wants to go to the coffee shop and get some weed. Rick is trying to explain the route to the nearest coffee shop when I see my window. "Let's go Sofia! I'll show you the way" I tell her. We grab our coats and stuff and suddenly she doesn't want to go anymore. ??? pretty weird, we were already outside so she had a cigarette and I sat next to her. I say "oh nice you turn out not to be a stereotype tourist who just comes here to smoke weed". She keeps talking and talking about herself and I didn't even think of kino'ing (STUPID!!!!!). We went back to the livingroom and I neg her once. She negged me untill it wasn't fun anymore. I laughed along but was getting pretty sick of her. I gave her some kind of weird look. She said sorry and we laughed. I wanted to take her away from the group. I didn't know how. I was getting bored of her stories and felt the sexual tension we had fading away(even if it was only a little). Eventually I told the guys I was going home and then out of the blue she tells me something about me perhaps being the cutest guy of the netherlands????????????????????. And hugged me tight. I'm thinking classic travellers.... Neutral when you're with them and instant emotional if someone's leaving.

She's gone already but I have a few questions. Any other advice is also welcome of course!

What to do after I ruined my window? (her smoking a cigarette outside) What are easy ways to create new opportunities like this? To get her away from the group.
How to get a break from her talking over and over about herself? It was easy for me and actually pretty interesting at first but after a while it gets pretty dull.
I suck at spotting indicators of interest, if I do spot them what do I do?
What do I do with all those negs? Is a neg an IOI?

Ya I neg is an ioi. For more replies try to shorten the length of you post. But I don't think you ruined it.

She didn't wanna go because her boyfriend rick was there. She was interested in you however. If she tries to talk about herself just let her. She's connecting with you when she does that. A little push pull could indicate your value. Just kind of ignore her for a little bit then smile and talk to her. Go out for a smoke and see if she follows.