Alot of me previous posts are really negative. But ever since doing nightgame in Seattle NOT my home Vancouver I can pretty much approach most girls and get a conversation going. GIrls are way frendlier.

But other than that I can't really flirt so to speak. I'm a funny guy I guess but being a clown and making just making jokes or conversing about abstract topics doesn't make a girl interested in you. I'm not sure how to start to build attraction and go beyond being a friendly guy up for a conversation.

I also haven't initiated in kino, but funny enough a couple girls have with me. So maybe I should be less afraid to be physical too.

Generally though I am happy I have broken through m social anxiety to get to this point, although in my own city I would be no better...

I can talk all day long. Running out of things to say is an indicator of a BIGGER problem. Running out of things to say means you are trying to impress her. Do you know flirting is just talking with an undertone of sexuality?

Kino, it should come natural, because you are new, you can try a few things.....

1) Take her hand, and just hold eye contact and talk to her

2) Grab her hand, and spin her.....get in close, hold good eye contact, and speak to her slowly, and with ease.

Look of dicarlo escalation ladder, it may help.

How is your body language? this is more important than kino, kino is a result of attraction, it just happens.

BTW, attraction is natural, you are a man, and she is a woman. It comes naturally. If she doesn't seem interested, MOVE THE FUCK ON. Go to the next woman. I wish I knew this advice when I was just starting out.

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Ok well girls are interested in talking yes, but doesn't seem they are attracted. I am not alpha at all tbh.
Even if I don't run out of things to say eventually they will exit themeselves out or get bored etc.

Usually I am talking to 2 girls at once though, or my wing and I are talking to both together.

I guess it may be a long time of just talking to random girls until I find someone that is attracted.

Kino is essential. Make it a goal of yours to use kino as you perform your opener. From there, slowly build it up. Also to establish attraction, be ready to walk away, feign occasional disinterest, and give some DHV's.

One form of kino involves what is called "incongruency." When a girl says something maybe dorky or something that you can find a reason to make fun of: Give her shit for it (jokingly), while leaning back and/or looking away from her, while making an escalating touch. So if you had touched her elbow once, now when you perform this make it a little bit more of an intimate touch such as grasping both her arms above her elbows. The "incongruency" of making your body language look like you're becoming less interested allows you to touch more and get away with it.