Hey guys,

I'm away at school for the semester which started last week (9/2/2014). I met this girl at orientation (8/26/2014) and asked her out for lunch next week when came back on campus. She said yes.
So on 9/1 we had lunch and it went great. We got out food, sat down, talked, and the next thing we knew it was almost 2.5 hours later. We still continued to hang out for another 1.5 hours, though her friends were with us for the last portion of that.

We were texting all of last week, things were going great. We finally hung out Thursday (9/4) and went bowling with her and some of her friends. The next night, pre-gamed at her friends house with a few friends and went to go find a party at a frat house or bar. Though she seemed a bit distant initially at the beginning of the night, that changed as the night pressed on. Eventually we started talking and flirting more, and as we walked around the neighborhood she held my arms and kept close to me.

Later that night we get back her to friend's house, the initially place we were pregaming at. Her friends had left the room, we talked just the two of us, and started making out for about ten minutes. After that we went back into the living room where her friends were, but they left us again so we could be alone. We continue to kiss for another 15 min or so.

Soon after, we all end up cramming in a cab to get back to campus. I walked her to dorm, we kiss a few more times, and say goodnight. I ask her if she wants to get lunch tomorrow, she says yes.

I text her the next morning and ask if she wants to get food soon. I don't get a response for over an hour or so only to hear her say that she's getting food right now.

I said back: Well okay, I'll doing some homework, if you want to get food later let me know.
She texts me around 7:30 and says that they are eating now. So I got dressed and went down to one of the dining halls, waiting for her to say where she is. I never hear from her.

I go back to my dorm, pissed for pretty much being stood-up twice. And since then our texting conversations have been sub-par. I told her: I'd really like to see you, do you wanna get some ice cream or watch some Netflix?
She just said she has a lot of reading to do for a class.

Our conversation through texting has still been sub-par.

This all doesn't make much sense to me. Her friends were saying that I should date her, that she likes me, etc, on the night we went out drinking and kissed. There was a mutual attraction. I would expect since that night, since we kissed, for things to go forward in a good way, but they are not.

I feel it important to note that she is a international student, where her family greatly values an education. So to me it makes sense that she's worried of having a guy she really likes taking her away from her work. Or she could be longer be interested in the way I am.

Either which way, I want to talk to her about it and find out if I'm wasting my time and energy, in person.

Any suggestions on how to do this? Especially without sounding needy?

Too much, too soon?

A date 12 hrs after a date is a little much, if she's not feeling it as much as you are.

Give her a few days and hit her up again.

I think you have the interest... you're just beating her over the head with invites.

Hey man,

I've been texting that same girl all week. I asked her once to get lunch or coffee. She said busy with school work. She just texted me and said that she's going to a girl's birthday party. Is it ever okay to invite yourself?

I don't want sound rude or needy.

She may be telling me this because actually wants to see me. Or she could be telling me this see my reaction and what I'd say, so she can "gauge the situation" between us.

I think the latter is more likely because she could have just invited me straight up.

Any help or advice here on what to say and how to progress from here would be much appreciated.

Definitely back off, slow down and keep it more casual.

She doesn't want to build up a relationship that intense where you are meeting every day.

As the other's said, definitely need to slow it down. Go a few days without texting her. If you see her while you're out and about, give her a friendly hello, maybe blow her a smooch and leave it at that. start talking with her friends if you have their numbers/ see them around.

All of this will cause [her to start thinking about you. After a few days she'll either contact you (you're in, go for the full close next time you're together) or you just text her with a casual opening "how's (insert class here) going?" then find out when she's free and schedule something. Keep you're side of the texting to a minimum, you can't build attraction through text. If she agrees to go out with you again, you're in, go for the full close. If she gives you excuses/ flakes on you, move on and don't put any more effort into her, or simply "friend zone" yourself and get in good with all of her friends, building your social circle.