HEELLP!!

I have been with alot of girls in the past and never had this problem...
There is this HB10 who i have been trying to get with for so long about 9months!! at a party it finally happend we got together things were going so well after we went on dates things still great finally she stays round my place after 3rd date.. i eat her out after a massage to get her horney and then she pulls me up kisses me grabs my cock gets on top we start fucking and after about 5mins my cock goes soft and nothing i can do keeps it hard!!! THIS HAS NEVER HAPPEND BEFORE!! i take so long to cum usually about an hour so i dont understand why or how this would happen now especially with this absolutely stunning girl!!!

and then again the following day same thing after 5 mins its goes soft!!

Help i dont know if ive blown it but she didnt seem to impressed by what happend and has been a little distant since....

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If it has only happened with her then perhaps it's psychological. If she is an HB10 and you've invested so much in her, that would be a likely cause. It's happened to me but usually women I don't find attractive or if I am not horny. The fact that you rated her a 10, it might be stage fright so to speak. It can be all subconscious. For example I can't pee if I'm in at a stall and someone is waiting behind me. It's not a fear or being embarrassed. It just won't happen. I'll even lose the feeling to go.

If it's psychological the solution is easy in principal but difficult in practice. You have to figure out what negative belief is causing your body to behave this way.

Do you believe you deserve a 10?
Do you have a fear of happiness, commitment?

The beliefs could be so old that we have forgotten where they came from but they exist. Meditation, hypnosis, positive thinking can help. Basically you have to change what you believe.

If you changed said belief and it worked, you might find that you'll start getting 10's all the time from now on. They will be magnetized to you. We act in accordance to what we believe we can get. Women observe men and base attraction not on the way they act but on the man's beliefs.

The funny thing is telling the hb10 that it has only happened with her is the ultimate neg.

Don't get too psyched about the whole thing because it might just have been an isolated thing. For 9 months you were gaming her, telling your body to keep in line, you can't expect it to flip on like a light switch.

Oh and alcohol is another cause. Maybe a combination. There could be physical reasons that could be treated with viagra but I don't think that's the case. The test would be if you can get it hard and keep it hard with other women.

I dont use a condom with her anyway so that makes no difference if i use a condom i wont cum at all never have only been able to cum with 3 girls and that only without condoms.

yeah mabe your right it is nerves i just dont understand it myself.. i have even thought of this girl while fucking another girl ... but now i have got her it doesn't work out...

She has even spent time talking to her friend telling her whats happend... i ust dont know what to do about it or explain it to her :/

I have this problem only when I've had more than 4-5 drinks and/or I'm hungover (the morning after). Definitely sucks. Some girls might freak out b/c of it (they think they're not sexually attractive or some shit).

I was stone cold sober no drinks or anything... this is such a weird situation to be in... i think ive now blown it with this girl she isnt even replying to my texts etc

yea it's just psychologic , it happend with me to when i had sex with the sister of a good friend of me, even though she's really fine i felt guilty for fucking my friends sister , i knew he would like that and after a while he would get hard anymore

Yeah this is something that happens to all of us at some stage. IT's called sexual anxiety. There's a number of reasons it happens. Most of the time it's guys worrying if they are big enough or even worrying about it going up in the first place. The problem is the more you worry about it the worse it can become. Imagine if you get into bed with her again, you're going to be even more worried this time. When we worry or become nervous about something the body releases adrenaline into the system. It's a fight or flight auto response that draws blood from parts of the body that aren't need at that time and sends it to the heart ready to fight or flight. As the penis uses blood to become hard the brain will divert blood flow there by restricting it. So although the problem is psychological, it causes a physical response that's hard to get over when it happens. Don't try to force it to happen by thinking of different woman and pornos it doesn't work. Just accept it, have a little joke about it as if it's no big deal. It may happen a couple of times but as you get used to being naked with that same woman you will start to relax and get sexually excited.

By the way did you still get her off? you can still play around if she's in the mood.

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It's defnitely the nerves. It happens to pretty much every guy at some point. You were probably nervous or thought that you had to do really well, since she is so hot and you've been working on her for so long. Just don't worry about any pressure and relax. Ask her for a blow job.

This same thing happened with a friend of mine. He said it was due to him taking Viokadine.

Did you take any weird pills? It may be something in your diet. May want to check with a DR if it keeps happening.

-sawyer

As others have said, it is mental. If you are afraid of messing up, that fear will prevent you from getting hard. If you feel guilty about what you are doing for some reason (ie cheating) that too can prevent you from getting hard.

First, don't put yourself in a mental state of being afraid of not staying hard. In other words, you have to realize that it's ok...and doesnt really matter...and if you start to go soft, just be cool about it.

Second, if you feel it starting to wane, change what you're doing...do someting to edge it up. Add a finger, play with her anus, etc...if you do the right thing youll spring right back into action. The worst thing you can do is think to yourself, "oh shit...im going to go soft...shit shit shit, I better keep doing what im doing and hope it doesnt...damn, it happened."

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Slay more women....

The more you slay, the better you are, the more confidence you'll have and the less you worry about outside factors...

Practice.

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This, and control anxiety. Some of the anti-anxiety techniques on this forum help A LOT. Also, try showering with her first. Visualizing and teasing can help you as much as it can for her. Often, guys focus on getting the girl horny but don't focus on it too much. Like someone else said above, if you can be comfortable around her naked before you guys get into bed, it's going to be smooth sailing.

If you get her over again, try the shower. Have a long hot shower, get comfortable, it will relax both of you and set the mood.

Oh, and if I want a break during the process from actual fucking... I'll use my middle and ring fingers.... just inside and up... find the G-spot and determine which amount of pressure, and what type gets her motor running... A palm over her stomach as if trying to touch your fingers through her skin has a high propensity of getting the woman to squirt if she's truly comfortable around you. Intermittently use the tongue on the clit and then back to the palm pressure....

You're getting a recharge while ensuring it's FAR from boring for her.


....and yeah, any man here who's made a woman squirt knows that is fucking cool. You KNOW you're the shit then.*
















*Be warned - flip side to that is she may not ever NOT squirt, and that can get old quick LOL....

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