Hi, this is my first post! I'm 32, just got out of a relationship and am just starting out with this whole pick-up thing. I went out last night to try some of the techniques I've been reading about and seeing on YouTube videos. I feel like I got myself into a situation that was a bit unique and hope you guys can shed some light into what went wrong.

So I went into a bar and looked around. I saw there was a table with two guys and three girls. They looked like they were good friends and having a lot of fun so I went over to them and I told them. Then I said I was there alone and asked if I could sit with them. They obliged so I shook all their hands and introduced myself. As it turned out, they were from a country in which I had been living and I spoke the language so I think that was a good way of building rapport not only with the girl I ended up talking to but with the whole group. And I think what was especially important since it turned out that the two guys and one of the girls turned out to be brothers and sister (the other two girls were their girlfriends).

So this girl, sister of the two guys and the only single girl at the table -- I had actually been lucky enough to have sat next to her and we started talking immediately. I could tell she was interested in me. Coincidentally she had been to the country I'm originally from and she also spoke MY language. So we spoke both in her language and mine. I told her that I train capoeira and she had also trained it for a while. She had actually been in the same group I was in when I was living in her country. So these were really cool coincidences which I think helped to build a rapport. Unfortunately that's about where my progress ended.

I had been reading and watching videos on all of these methods about how to seduce a girl, kiss her, etc. But I didn't feel comfortable about trying any of them since her two brothers were there. Don't get me wrong, I hit it off really well with them AND their girlfriends but still I didn't feel it would be proper for me to try those techniques. So we ended up just talking about bland things. I guess I could at least have made the conversation more "interesting" and the others wouldn't even know what we were talking about but I just wasn't in the right frame of mind. I didn't even touch her at all after the initial handshake...

So at some point she went to the bathroom and when she came back she sat next to one of her brothers so there was someone else between us and we almost didn't speak at all for the rest of the night. When we left the bar I decided to go home. As I was saying my goodbyes I said to her "shall we find out about going to the forest?" which was something we had been talking about and I had earlier suggested we could do. So she said "yeah let's exchange numbers" and when I pulled out my phone she said just write your number in my phone. I don't think she wanted me to have her number and I doubt she will call me. In fact I think the only way that she would call me would be if the rest of the group convinced her because I know for a fact that they liked me.

So yeah at some point I just lost her. I don't know if it was anything specific that I did, but I don't think so. I think that in general I just failed to show romantic interest but again, since she was with her brothers I didn't feel like it would have been appropriate for me to try the techniques I had been hearing about. Or what do you guys think? Should I have shown interest in a more subtle way? How?

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