Hi guys

Im kinda new here but i have been reading the forum up for a while now, some useful information has been come from this but im in a bit of a pickle. I know its something Im doing wrong else i wont be posting anything here so here goes my "essay"

There's this girl i met in highschool. Pretty amazing girl but has mood swings like you will not believe. shes 21 im 20, been friends since grade 10 (now 3rd year uni.) Ive been gaining some feelings for her for a while, she even had a part to play in me leaving my ex because I had feelings for this girl (Even after a whole year of no contact I still had the same feeling.) We still friends, shes been with other guys and Ive been with other girls but our paths always cross one another, no matter how much i try to run away from it. Lately we've been seeing each other often.. The problem is closing the deal. Ive set up dates, during of which i did escalate Kino, DHV and was an Alpha in every right. But lately ive been slacking and thus resulted in the words I didnt want to hear which was "lets just stay friends."

This past saturday Kino escalation was very high, Alone at home with just her and me, We kissed, fondled around a bit but the next morning she pretended like i wasn't even there when i visited her. This morning i get the lets just be friends text, but the problem is i actually do feel something for her and she's willing (still is but only backing down due to lack of chemistry) to give it a shot. Now i know im not the only one that's got her eye, and that's whats worrying me.

The reason why im posting here is i genuinely forgot everything on how to pick up women. There's just not enough chemistry between the two of us to escalate things any further. So my question to the guru's is, i want the chemistry between the two of us to build. I know I escalated things pretty quickly cause with this girl I have to take my time, I was rushing things and was being total AFC about it.

I know this forum is all about picking up women to bang, But what im after is a long meaningful relationship with her. The attraction is there, no doubt about that, but I need to know what I can to do actually salvage whats left of it. and Yes, it is salvageable. I know there must be something i can do. And frankly, Im willing to be as Alpha as fuck to get this to work.

From her side she's scared. So hence why shes backed out so early. but the problem isnt with her its with me, else I wont be in this position in the first place. I need to get the chemistry working again. Im not desperate and I know the slogan GFTOW- but in this case it didn't help, cause I've already tried it. and this hasnt been going on from now, its been like this for a while.

So my Question to you Guru's is, as much as with all my might I want this to work, I will be willing to let it go if it doesnt. I Just want enough chemistry for me to give myself a chance with this girl. Just to give it a shot, and I Know its possible, with the right techniques and the right mindset, anything is possible.

Appreciate the advice guys (both positive and negative)

I'm no guru, man, but I can tell you it'll help if you don't seem like you really care. It'll be hard, but give her the cold shoulder for a few days, and try to see if you can't get some girls to flirt with you around her. Remember, 'nothing is ever a big deal.' She needs to see you as powerful, and independent. Maybe do something for yourself, that reminds you of how awesome you are, and re-approach the situation from a different mindset.

No excuses! Plan something exciting for you two to do together. And gently test your water. You may have to prove yourself to her all over again before making another move. Over all you need to send a message that you can still be friends, but you will not put your balls in storage until she changes her mind. If she is a jealous type, play it to your advantage.
Are you sure? Could she be so damaged that she can't make a relationship work? What if she needs time to recover from a nasty breakup? What if she is still in love with a guy who dropped her? Or she can't see a wonderful guy you are because of the last dirtbag she dated?

Girls told me horror stories about what their ex-boyfriends. Consider this before planning your course of action.

Al

Well some feedback from my last post. Lately we havent spoken since my last post.. But i dont know what course of action to take after being completely ignored after seeing her on monday.. But granted i was in a bad mood and had no expectation of seeing her. I will be seeing her again, thats a definite, i tried to speak to her but ended up with a cold shoulder... She wont be coming on anything i invite her to due to exams.. Which ends in two weeks. A mututal friend has decided to speak to her but then again i dont trust her words seeing as shes been leading me around the block.

As for jealousy... Yes, intensely.. But picking up women is hard especially in my field and hours of work. Hard without a wingman as you get cock blocked from every side.. And all my wingmen have girlfriends which is quite sad..

So i figured just wait a while, let her come around...
Mean time i have started talking to other girls.. But for some reason. This one sticks

If this is eating you up alive, call out the elephant in the room (maybe after the exams). Sometimes burning the bridges is the only way to move forward. Besides, what kind of relationship are expecting without trust? On the other hand it could be stress from the exams.

BTW, pickup isn't hard! The hard part is finding the right girl, then it's just footwork XD.

Al

Im guessing burning the bridge is the best thing i can do. Could be moving away soon or venturing into some big business so it might be a plus side im gone. Problem is when i come back, i wont care as much...

As for exam stress i also suspect that... But not to cause such drastic measures as to cut off contact completely but im not worried about it further.

I can game it further... But not now later on. Need to work my technique again. Any chances of refreshing my memory on what to do. Im confident in my own right.. Im just running out of things to say and ive lost my witt..

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