I met this heavy smoker 24 year old girl online who displayed mutual attraction with me over text and photo sharing. After getting to know her via text, she mentioned that she is a virgin, though she has done a lot of other none-intercourse stuff in the past.

We were supposed to meet once, but she offered to flake due to final exams, and as a non-needy mature adult, I told her sure, let's postpone it for another time so you can do well on your exams. She said that she didn't like the idea of completely flaking out and still wanted to see me for at least a short time, but because I am not a quicky type of a guy, I told her I don't like rushing and that it'd be best for our first meeting to be another time when she had more free time and less stress on her mind.

I suspect this is what flipped a switch in her head. Perhaps she got offended and felt that I wasn't attracted enough to want to meet her and felt rejected when I told her "it's okay, let's not meet"? She told me the following day that she doesn't feel attracted to me at all and wishes to be nothing more than friends with me since I'm a good guy. (Mind you, I had taken extra caution to not act like a friend and was always bold and would always toss sexual jokes and hints and tease her in sexually-suggestive ways which she seemed to like.)

I told her that we hadn't even met yet and that I thought she was a cool girl, and that perhaps we should meet first and give it a shot and then determine if there is no chemistry, to which she said "No, I don't want to do that." Therefore, I said okay, being friends is alright with me (though I had lost all motivation at this point to even talk to her anymore).

For the next few days, she kept texting me and I would keep answering back. She would ask me "friendly" advice like whether she should lose her virginity already or not since she really wants to have sex. She even suggested that there is a hypothetical person out there who she is considering doing it with. Then she asked me if I were jealous about her liking that guy, to which I responded with sarcasm and said "why the hell would I care what you do when I've never even met you or know who you are?" She then proceeded to saying that she knows I like her a lot and she wonders why I keep txting her after what she told me. Is she suggesting that she thinks I have no self-respect? What am I supposed to do? I told her in a joking way to sober up and not think the universe revolves around her.

Bottomline, as friends, I am not liking her attitude so far, and I suspect SHE is still interested in me since she is the one who keeps initiating conversations with me. The question is, is she worth keeping around as a potential booty call who is interested in me but since she is a virgin does not know how to let me know that she wants me and as a defense mechanism keeps raising her ego? Or is her ego real and this type needs to be avoided at all costs? Any experience from the experienced fellas greatly appreciated.

Dude, you're looking at this from the wrong angle. She is shit testing you, she is not a virgin.. she just wanted to see how you will act, and yes maybe she was pissed off you blew her off. so she tries to use that as a chance to friendzone you, but if you kept staying bold, im guessing she is still wet for you. Just set up a date and escalate, if she doesn't comply, tell her then stop texting me. She is saying shit like you like me bla bla hahahaha it just means she likes you enough to care. Spin the table man. Meet up, escalate, fuck. Guarenteed she will comply.

Thanks for the fresh perspective. So should I continue my sexual innuendos (which she still seems to enjoy) and ask her to hang out next week? She will probably say something like "umm okay, but remember we're just friends." What would be an ideal response to that? Without sounding like a cheapass, I'm thinking of joking around and saying something like "Yes, of course. Even better, you can pay for your own food." If we do go out, I should probably pay for the food regardless, right? Please advise on how to get this "friends-only" undercover cock-craver what she wants by playing with her own dumb rules.

Any advice at all? Sorry for the bump.

Don't make cheapass comments. Yes go with the flow of your bold sexual comments, and as long as she receives them well, you should push to hangout. If she throws the only as friends line, just be like yeah cool watever and go on the hangout/date. Act as if she never said the friends thing and escalate and close just like you would any other girl. When they say the friends thing just ignore it as if she didnt say it and change subject. But main point is escalate and close.