So I had a 1st date last night with a girl that I have been wanting to meet again for a while.
I could tell she was nervous when we met. We went to a wine bar, had loads to drink, built the kino, K closed, went to get something to eat, back to mine for another kiss and then she took a taxi home.

She is nearly 2 months out of a relationship and did bring the guys name up once or twice last night and I am pretty sure she still has feelings for him but that is to be expected I suppose. They broke up over religious reasons.

We did have quite a good night and we kissed a lot. Don't know her well to say she could have been asking more questions or showing more interest, but again - we got quite drunk.

When cab came, I asked her to text me when she got home to say she was safe. Its now the next day and no text from her yet. I think I would be massively disappointed not to get a text saying 'thanks for last night'..

Its hard for anyone to know as you don't know the girl, but here is my question/s..

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Typically speaking.. if you do have a date with a girl.. end up kissing a lot and being very comfortable with each other.. would you assume that the girl is interested to meet again? (unless you drop a clanger of course)

2. If I don't hear from her (saying thank you or something) would you still follow it up?.. and if so, when?

thanks

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Yes if your kissing alot usually means she has interest. Yes if you think the date went well follow up. I usually use some sort of call back humor. Text her something that she talked about on the date or something that happened when you where together. The last girl I went on a date with said her favorite food was peanut butter, so a few days after the date I texted her saying that I was enjoying a spoonful of peanut butter and hoped she got to have one soon. We texted back and forth a bit after, then I called and set up a day 2.

1. Sometimes but not always. The surest way to see a girl again is sex, otherwise it's never a guarantee. I have gotten BJs on day 1s and then couldn't even get a second date.

2. Yea of course you should! A lot of women will not contact you PERIOD even if they want to see you again. Ask her whats up and see if she wants to hang out again!

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1.Typically speaking.. if you do have a date with a girl.. end up kissing a lot and being very comfortable with each other.. would you assume that the girl is interested to meet again? (unless you drop a clanger of course)

From my experience, Fuck no. Kissing doesn't mean anything(for most girls). It only means something if YOU place a lot of value on it. Then the girl will too. So if a girl kisses me i never automatically assume i will see her again. Ive made out with girls in the club many, many times. Thought it was solid. Never heard or seen her again. Its just how it is. Kissing doesn't have as much as an investment or emotional investment on the girls part as having sex with you does.

2. If I don't hear from her (saying thank you or something) would you still follow it up?.. and if so, when?

Fuck yes. I ALWAYS follow up. Follow up the next afternoon or the next day. Doesnt really matter when, it all depends on how you come off. Dont come off as supplicating, needy, reaction seeking etc. and youll be good.

Even if i get a girls number or go out with a girl and i "feel" its a flake or i wont see her again..i always make it a rule to follow up(If i dont pull her back for sex of course, and even still i follow up). Women and people change from day to day. Ive had times where ive gotten a girls number, and im almost certain its a flake. Hit her up the next day or a few hours later. Its on. Maybe something changed in her life between that time frame or she had some realization...You never know, so always follow up.

I think most guys DONT follow up to avoid the "rejection" or "no response" feeling. Youll soon realize its no big deal and doesnt even matter. Because youll meet more women easily.

So thats it man. Good luck.

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You got her back to yours and didn't fuck her? Does not compute!

Get her clothes off ad smash her!

Oh grow up you fucking jerk. OP - When a girl is drinking/gets drunk she lets herself go a lot more and feels far more confident (you said she was nervous when you met?) so yeh you both kissed a lot, went back to yours and kissed some more. When she sobered up she probably regretted it especially as she's only just come out of a relationship and actually spoke about the guy. My gut feeling is that she's not sure what to do now. You could text her and say 'Hope you're not lying dead in a ditch somewhere' as you are quite right to feel pissed off that she didn't text you when she got home. Anything could've happened to her.

I pushed a little i.e. 'sleep over and get a cab back in the morning'.. but didn't push further. More than happy to meet her again as this is one for the long term if it works. Only girl in years to have me thinking about her constantly. Not healthy I know, but cant help it.

I do feel a bit pissed off that she didnt text although I am hesitant to write anything negative or father like for now. I was thinking just to text that the night was fun and ask her if she has recovered. almost not be too bothered that she didnt text. If i did see her again, I would probably explain that i am a bit annoyed and that i only asked her to do it for good reasons.

Its not quite the same as pulling a girl in a club. We met a year ago, have been friends on FB for 6 months and were going to meet a while back but it didnt happen because of her relationship..
She has been on a dating site recently and I am sure, as soon as she saw my profile, she changed her profile to match mine so I have been a target for her for a while.

I suppose its guess work now, but I am going to text her around midday today.. and we shall see. I think this girl does have a habit of replying to some of my messages late and playing the game a bit. I notice how some of her messages are conveniently short as if to try and be shorter then mine. shes obviously been reading stuff on the internet too . lol - so she is tactical.

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Ok, so the update is..

yesterday I texted her (2 days after date):

11.00am 'ish - me: Had a really good time with you. I woke up late on the floor covered in cabbage! Have you recovered yet?

6.00pm - her: Hey, I strugged through and did a pretty average job at a meeting I had to present at! Cabbage hey?! Have a good X (X = something I was doing over the next 24 hours)

So, I am very used to fucking things up at this stage and I just want to be very careful how I proceed. When should I text back and what to say?.. i.e. go for more chat or a 2nd date?..

Really appreciate the help guys. thanks.

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Ask her out in your next text. Get to the point otherwise you'll both keep texting back and forth with nothing actually happening. That's what I'd do dude. Good luck.