I'm in a fairly stuck situation. I'm 26 year old and am chasing a 26 year old girl. I have only known her for about 6 weeks. She told me she couldnt handle a relationship so indeed i backed off. We spent 3 nights together in that period before we actually had intercourse. I must have made a good impression because we ended up staying together for the next 2 weeks. It all seemed well until the last couple of days, she wasn't touching or hugging as much. I go to work and get a message saying she needs to be alone, I was making her feel uncomfortable by being over affectionate, that she needs time, and can't handle anything at the moment. She has been out of a long term relationship for 3 years, and tells me she emmotionally retarded :/ I still like her and wanna be with her but not sure where to go from here. How do i make her feel comfortable, and even to respond to me, being 2 weeks and haven't spoken to her??

Please help, i know there is somebody out there that can help. Thank you

Welcome first time poster, if you haven't read the rules here is a re-post
There is a reason the forum moderators have made these rules and it's a good one. Other then that I empathize with your situation, although no time recently.

The truth is the girl isn't that interested in you any more for one of many reasons that no one knows, any experienced advice you receive will be basicallybe the same: "move on" which you wont do any time soon. Good luck

You basically burned your own bridge by smothering her. The fact that you are the one doing the chasing, makes it easy for her to lose interest. Your only chance here is to give her space and address the issue at hand.

In a last ditch effort, you could contact here an acknowledge the smothering and give her the indication that you will no longer be that person.

Here's an example of what you can say:

"Hey @#@!#! I'd like to apologize for my behavior, I can imagine how difficult it must of been for you to deal with it. I now see that I was very smothering and It's amazing that you put up with it for so long. I have to tell you this is not normally my nature, I just felt really connected to you and the sex was great.

Now that I've had a chance to think about it all, I realize that I should of listened to the signs you were giving off. I was being selfish. On a positive note, I learned how cool of a person you are and for that reason, I would like to continue to be just a friend.

If you ever need to talk to someone about anything, or need a friend...give me a shout"( do not message her again after this and you need to mean it)

This may seem pathetic, but if you are really into this girl and there is any chemistry between the two of you, it may be your only shot. It's best to find a way back into her world with the least friction possible, offering a friendship is your best bet.

Also you need to lose the smothering needy behavior(with all women) even if you fall in love with a woman, It's the easiest way to lose a woman.

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I have defiantly got alot to learn. Thanks for the reply, like old mate said, might have to just move on. But i'll give it the last pathetic go. Thanks for the insite. Hopefully my posts will be of sucess next time. Cheers

I seriously don't think she's driving you away. She is getting attached to you and she doesn't want to go through the same situation over and over again (the attachment situation and having feelings). She is driving you away so she doesn't hurt yourself, you just have to prove yourself worthy. And oh...stop making her do the leading, take lead.