I've known this girl for 1 year, We were very close when we first met. Couple weeks later some guy comes along and she gets interested in him she rarely mentions the guy don't know if that's a good or bad thing and now her FB states she's in a relationship doesn't say who however. Basically now I struggle to hold a convo with her or get her to talk and I can tell she's ignoring me.

I told her after I get back from Thailand as I'm going their for a month that I would like to catch up, She basically apologised for not talking to me that day and wished me a safe trip. So I leave tomorrow now I'm thinking what my next move should be and what I can do to come back a strong sexual successful confident man instead of a needy immature insecure little girl lol.

Can anyone give me any tips on the matter or books to ready for example? I'll be working hard on my physical shape currently. I'm skinny and hoping to put on muscle.

Keep working out at the gym and you'll see the results. Hard work but worth it. Not sure if she's still that interested in you though but yeh I'd go ahead and make your appearance the appearance you want to have and see how she reacts. Make it your secret, little project to improve yourself as it will give you loads of confidence. Good luck.

the way I've found works with a girl you've gotten to know but seems uninterested is to just back off a bit.
the reason for this is if there's that chance she seems uninterested is because she may very well be uninterested, if your instincts have a doubt that she's not into you, well, what can you trust if not your instincts.

But i digress.
Speaking from personal experience, the reason i recommend backing off a bit is it shows you're independent, your own man. keep a bit of space between you and her but do your own thing: Work out, practice your game, become the man who can and will get the kind of women he desires.

What happens is the next time she sees you, despite what she expects she'll see a confident, in-shape Alpha male, and she will see you in a whole new advantageous light.



if thats not convincing enough, this past 3 weeks i met a girl who is just gorgeous with a great personality. unfortunately She had some past with a guy and wanted to take it slow as friends. obviously there was something in my game that brought upon this so i stopped talking to her, improved my inner and outer game (thanks to the forum) and texted her.
following conversation happened just last night.
Me: umm did you text me?
her: I dont wanna say no because you'll stop texting me..
me: *no reply*
her: and i want to keep texting you (:

i can relate to your story, but its not the end. even so dont get too hung up on one HB if its not working out, move on to the next lucky lady.

keep your game tight
Zealous

Thanks for the replies guys I do appreciate it after not talking for 3 days we started talking in game. I met her over WoW. I prefer leaving the phone for setting dates don't really use it for talking to woman I'd rather do that in person.

I'm new to game and it sucks majorly I don't know what to do about this though. As you can see I suck. I've not texted her since she removed me from friends and I don't plan too. Yes I got told off and might have gone a little to fast without building back up attraction and rapport.

When we first met she would have replied definitely to what she is now. So I've not texted her by the phone or tried to contact her since I said bye. In the past I would have just gone running to her this time I refuse to back down and apologise for my behaviour. I see myself as a flirty and sexual confident guy.

Will use this as a test what should I have not done and done in this circumstance? Last time we met before she got into this relationship she had her tongue down my throat at a club. Yes I'm new and not good to this sort of thing what annoys me is she flirts with everyone when it comes to doing it back I get this reaction.

Decided not to contact her at all.

19:55 [Pikachoo]: Weren't wrong about that pet.
19:56 [Risedruid]: As if copy me :p
19:57 [Pikachoo]: Bloody oath, he carves up
19:57 [Risedruid]: Yes we all know you want me so you copy me in all I do because I'm that amazing at everything in life.
19:57 [Pikachoo]: NO Kyle.
20:00 [Risedruid]: Can
20:00 [Risedruid]: Gah. Can't deny the truth so you just keep telling yourself little one
20:00 [Pikachoo]: Okay that's way too far.
20:03 [Risedruid]: Oh relax, Don't be so serious. Just a joke.
20:03 [Pikachoo]: Stop assuming that I want you then. It's not funny for me.
20:05 [Risedruid]: I don't assume, I watch by actions not text or the phone but what I see with my own eyes before making a judgement call. And you can't have me anyway.
20:05 [Pikachoo]: Right, if you're gonna be like that then I'm out of here.
20:06 [Risedruid]: That's your choice, I'm just having fun but if you want to get all serious about it then thats cool.
20:07 [Pikachoo]: I clearly said to stop, twice. I'm not comfortable with that kind of talk.
20:07 [Pikachoo]: Take care Kyle.
20:07 [Risedruid]: Bye