| Few general comments: there is the saying "tell a woman she is special, and she will never believe you, tell her she is fat, and she will never forget." It basically means that, although they are active in this authenticity-obsessed teenage romance feelgood comedy lifestyle where everyone needs to stand out (beat out the competition, but be nice to everyone), deep down inside, they always like to think of themselves as unique little snowflakes.
This explains why they will shrug off your compliments, but if you scratch deeper and not just at the surface, you will often discover a narcissistic personally beneath. Although they know they are nothing special, they still love to receive compliments and genuine admiration. But they will downplay these compliments because if they give the compliment recognition, they indirectly give the compliment's author recognition, and they feel this would lower their value.
So, indeed, we are trapped in this culture where everyone likes to be unique and stand out, yet at the same time the objects they dress with are fabricated on mass-assembly lines. You basically find yourself forced to lie and tell them they are special for you.
Since Nietzsche and his ""Ubermensch" late 19th century, Western culture is obsessed with an "Authenticity obsession." About being genuine and true to yourself. However, we live in a culture of mass consumerism, where character needs to be equated with things one can buy. Perhaps this situation is deeply diseased.
EDIT: It basically means that the less genuine unique value a female possesses, the more "hard to get" she will play to project such value. Superficiality and vanity are mutual catalysts.
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