Hi, first time poster here in need of advice! I'll give some context before blurting out what problem is:

The context: Having known about Game for a month, I took the plunge and began approaching a week ago. Now, on what must be my 9th EVER approach, I did an indirect approach on a cute girl selling hand- soaps at a mall (me- "errrrr.... what r u doin here? Can ya show me?", spoken with a tremor)

So she grabs my hand launches into her sales-pitch, but then I interrupt her mid-sentence with "u r the most aggressive saleswoman I've ever met. R u always this insane?".
This continues (her chatting, me interrupting with random spurts of words such as "Where r u from then"- spoken in a try-hard assertive tone-- Russia, if u were curious) for a couple of minutes. At which point she begins stroking my forearm in a very, well, stirring manner while shooting smoky eyes at me.

And then she states, matter of factly "u hav beautiful eyes". At this moment, my (apparently beautiful?) eyes jump out of my head, and my brain decides I no longer need my wits. I fumble about for a minute, while she issues what I could only describe as IOIIIs (Indicators of Immensely Intense Interest).
---and then asks me out to a coffee--- (to which I answer "yes" in a pre-pubescent voice. I'M 21, WHERE HAS THIS HOARSE VOICE SUDDENLY APPEARED FROM?!)

Now, here's my problem. (if u'v read this far, give urself a pat on the back).
I went on a "coffee-date" with this lovely lady, but get the feeling I totally messed up, and would like to know how to improve.
- When i met her, she instantly put her arm around me and placed my hand on her (shapely) ass. She then ratcheted up mission "let's go so direct I fuck up this fella's mind" by putting her head on my shoulder (after being on the "date" for 2 minutes!), pressing her breasts against my chest (the moment we got into Starbucks) and asking me to "feel" her firm stomach.
1) HOW do I deal with this directness? Do I reciprocate, or focus on building rapport with her instead with conversation.
2) During the coffee, she seemed mildly entertained when we chattered, but then would looked a bit disappointed when conversation lapsed. Should I have done something "intimate"? And if yes, like what? (nb. we are in a busy Starbucks so French kissing etc. would probably be a bit innapropriate)
3) When walking her back to where she works, she just went all cold, and distant. Was she expecting me to make a move?
4) She asked me to text her before we parted ways. Should I? 'Cos our "date" would definitely fall into the "awkward" category for me, though I honestly have no idea how she felt about it
5) Are Russian girls just really direct? Because the impression I got from my Game readings was that I was the one that was meant to be escalating - not her?! (I live in London)

Bear in mind I'm totally new to this scene. (That was my first ever "date" and I am pretty average looking- so no idea why she asked me out to a coffee. I didn't even build rapport with the girl...)

THANK YOU FOR READING- and Please give me some advice/ help me make sense of this series of events!!

So you met a girl, and on the first date she wants u to grab her ass and feel her tits. And u dont know what to do? Ahah wake up brother what shes trying to say is "TAKE ME TO UR HOUSE AND F•CK MY RUSSIAN BRAINS OUT"

You sound like your fram Landaan! I have the advice for you. Mate! It was in the bag, what are you waiting for? Who are you waiting for?! Her to grab your dick and put it in her? Like you are the man, get off with her in starbucks, fuck her over the counter and get kicked out by the staff, then go somewhere else, or just get her back to yours, secure a second date, take her to the toilets and fuck the shit out of her, anything! I take it the fact you went over to her means you wanted to fuck her, then she gives you the go ahead and you dont follow up on it, thats why she was turned cold cos you basically slapped her in the face. She knew what was up from the start and you didnt expect the result you got which ended up in it fucking up. BUT you can totally rescue it. "Focus on success cos failure will handle itself" thats my new mantra, the new superman said it at some press conference and its awesome. I think just don't concern yourself with seeing an interaction with women as game, get in the mindset that you are a man, you deserve to fuck this woman, that is what you are going to do regardless of whether she comes all over you or not. Her asking for you to text her is her way of giving you a second chance, definately meet up with her again. From her point of view, you may not have chosen to fuck her that day for loads of reasons that she wont blame you for having, she wants to see if you are going to follow up on how you met her initially. You should expect that she'll still be cold and test you fucking hard, I'd expect her to say something like "I'm so glad I met you, you can be my gay best friend", NO OFFENCE MEANT! She was initially interested, so dont be afraid to show her you wanna fuck the shit out of her, and then follow up on that, escalate, touch her the second you see her and just be sincere, show her you are going to fuck her from your body language and make a move...

to recap
1)Yes, show her you want to fuck her more with body language touching her, whatever..
2)She probably looked disappointed at the fact that you were looking to her to see how she is feeling, like in my opinion you looking to her to see how she is when conversation lapses would come across as you appearing needy for validation. Conversation naturally lapses every peak has two troughs. Be confident that you know what yooure doing and fake it till you make it.
3)yes, you idiot, do it next time, and fuck her into the next millennium.
4)yes. if you want your penis up in and around her ass then yes,yes.
5)yeah Russian men as you may now, are a different breed to us Brits, I would say generally they come across as more manly, not in my case, I would fuck a russian up, but I think definately expect Russian women to be more direct as a result. Same with German women, doesnt mean you have to be a meathead arsehole and pretend to be something your not though, just be the man.

I hope this helps in someway? If you have questions ask, I would like to know what happens. If this fails, I live in England what department store was it?

Thanks for the advice Captain Crunch and JamboK.

JamboK, i wish someone had told me what u posted before I went on this date- everything u said is spot on. I suppose it's cos it was my first ever date, I was just not prepared for her directness.

It was like a surreal experience- to go from no success with women to a hot Russian chic jumping all over me was like a surreal experience... i kept telling myself "this is too good to be true. what's going on?", when i shud hav been acting like u said- an alpha. I'll try and get in that frame of mind next date.

(I'm also a bit freaked out 'cos she's clearly experienced in fuckin, while I, have, well, two experiences I'm hardly what u'd call a mattress-dancer)
But I guess the only way to improve is to embarrass myself a few times along the way (easier said than done)

-Any advice on where I should take her for our next date?
('Cos the dynamic of the crowded coffee shop clearly didn't help last date!)

-Also, since she can barely speak any English, I'm thinking of learning some Russian words beforehand- good idea or no?

Thanks again

(and the department store was House of Fraser- the perfume section )

I dont know a lot I just know what I know, and any time I have TRIED in the past to have an "alpha mindset" I have failed miserably cos ur searching for something other than what you are in that moment and it doesnt work, literally Just abstain from sex with yourself or anyone else for about a week or more and then meet her, and im sure you will be having sex with her in no time! I know what thats like but girls dont give a fuck! women know we are stupid as shit, doesnt matter if you've not got much experience! Just go with a big pair of nuts, find out what you want her to do to you then tell her in Russian- is what I would do, but yeah learning foreign languages can be beneficial. I dont know depends on your preference and if you are of drinking age. I like to take a girl somewhere where you can eat something small and drink, somewhere that looks expensive but isnt necessarily. Anywhere intimate where you can talk and preferably drink alcohol! In fact almost all my dates involve alcohol but I have alot of Irish blood so that might be why. But stay cool and drink 1 for every 2 she drinks. Remember the goal is to fuck her, not learn russian! If your not great in bed, then be great mentally, good sex with a woman is from thoughts in her brain, you just happen to be there! And if your dick fails you have ten fingers a tongue a fucking nose the palm of your hand and an imagination to give her. Just ask questions, seem like your interested, dont be a totally boring bastard and what else touch her, let her know its on, look at her lips, escalate.. and at some point ask her what she likes, where she likes to be kissed. mate she'll be putty in your hands-remember that always and go get her. I expect a lay report !

either you were getting toyed with or you had it in the bag, either way, you play it the same. Physically escalate, but more importantly, see if she wants to go somewhere else, like your place (come up with some excuse, listen to me play guitar, check out this youtube video, whatever it takes). However, was this during the day? If it was, don't ever do that again (agree to a date during the day). Daytime dates = these kind of shitty scenarios where if it were night time you would know exactly what to do but because it's daytime and you are in such a non sexual mode and socially conditioned to be nonsexual during the day you froze.

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