What's up guys? I just have a question regarding my experience with this one girl a few days ago. I'll try to make the story short and to the point.

Background Story

So I met this girl on the train as I was on my way back from a college class. I asked her if she's from my college and she said no and that she has graduated but is from the town. Then she started asking me questions enthusiastically. Basic questions, like where I'm from, etc. So I took all that as IOI's. So I tried to qualify her. I asked her questions about herself and she told me that she's a cardiac nurse and then I told her how much I like and respect nurses and she was flattered. Then I tried to escalate kino. I did some high fives, thumb wrestling, etc. I got her number and when we were about to part ways we hugged. I then texted her a few hours later.

Text Convo

Me: Thanks for helping get around the city nurse!
Her: Ur welcome!! You made my ride more fun.
Me: Meeting a black athletic dude really made ur day huh ?
Her: hahahaha of course
Me: Well dont get any ideas. I have a wife and kids haha jk.
Her: Aww man. I knew there was a catch haha.
Her: How's your day going?
Me: Who knows. You might me my type lol
Her: No reply
After like 5 hours I decided to answer her question "How's your day going?" just to see if she'd reply.
Me: I'm gonna have a pretty busy, been caught up with a lot of things lol
Her: No reply

I waited 2 days

Me: hola. whats up?
Her: Hey:)
Her: I'm just packing for my trip out of town and cleaning my apt!
Her: You?
Me: Have fun in Nevada! We should hang out when you get back
Her: Sounds good

a few days later

Me: Knock knock :p ( I sent the text with the attention of maintaining attraction)
Her: No reply.


Idk what to do. I feel like giving up but I am interested in her.

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No problem holmes!

hmmm. Tough, but side not I would refrain from making any jokes about you being a cheat, or unavailable, or she might not live up to you standards, etc. Some women will analyze every detail and turn you into someone your not.

Seems like the initial meeting went perfect if your playing hand games and she gave the number up. I would keep doing what your doing and see how it goes in another week. Only thing I could think of is she busy with her life. Persistence pays off usually. Also sending a text every 3 or 4 days just to see whats up doesn;t take to much effort. When she flat out ignores you on several occasions then maybe its time to move on. But I would suggest you stick with it. KEEP PATIENCE and do not get aggressive or annoyed etc. Just do your thing and send a text every few days.

If you have an iphone I have a timer feature in there that helps you track your last conversation with potential prospects.

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CBPlayer, from the sounds of it, you did many things right. She obviously responded to the game you were throwing out. You said it yourself that you were getting the IOI's from her AND you got her number. Truthfully, you may need to move on from this one if you are not getting responses. It's not like you are going to hunt her down and find her again. But, you can still use this experience as a learning one.

Firstly, I don't believe that you want to go too in depth with that first text conversation. Keep it short and simple. Your first two messages were great. I would have stopped there. You don't want to go too far because she will certainly ask: "Why isn't this guy calling me?" In my experiences, the more I texted the less successful I was. With this being said, after the second message, you may want to just call her and talk to her directly. This shows confidence and this is what you want to portray.

Secondly, it seems that she was turned off by your comment about being your type. Honestly, that's a fairly tame comment. Perhaps, she has a boyfriend. Perhaps, she is just coming out of a relationship. Perhaps, she was turned off by it because she assumed that she was the only women that you were going after.

The only way to find this out is call her. The texting isn't working. If she answers, this is a good sign. If she doesn't (or doesn't call back), then you have to move on. But, you use the experience and become better because of it.

In closing, women want to earn their time with you. Don't make it easy for them to move on and dismiss you because you are not allowing them the opportunity to earn this place in your life. Sell yourself and your great qualities. In the end, you want her to say that you are her type.

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Remember, always act as if you have been there before.

Text game is so boring and tedious. You should have called her. Just wait a few more days and try calling her. Try and maintain the conversation for 5 minutes; if not longer. Talk about whatever is happening lately, then set up a date towards the end of the call.

Good luck.

A few thoughts here which will help;

be careful when suggesting you have wife and kids. you may be making it in to a joke but initially there is a major shock element which you have to recover from unless it's a woman who likes married men. Then there's always that doubt in her mind you were initially telling the truth about being married.

Don't call yourself a "black man". you might be black but it sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder b/c you are black. women don't like guys with chip on the shoulder.

Don't over use the term "nurse". It's a nice profession but you don't want to give the impression you are talking to her now b/c she's a nurse and usually they don't need to be reminded what they do for a living and some get burnt out on being reminded of it.

The wife and kids bit, along with not answering her question and instead saying "who knows, you might be my type" is where you blew it pretty bad. You are also ending too much stuff with "lol" which can get old and won't appeal to the wider variety of women. The correct answer would be, "not too sure. I'm a little busy" , maybe 10 or so minutes after you get the question

Knock Knock as a first of the day text is most likely not an ideal opener for what this interaction has been through.

so what should I do at this point? she's on a ten day vacation which started last friday

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No problem holmes!

go get more phone numbers and practice your phone game. someone said make a phone call instead of text. personally a lot of women where I am like texting b/c they don't have to answer right then .

as far as this girl. maybe in 5 days ask her to send a vacation pic or something. ask how the vacation is. It's very possible that was a lie hoping in 10 days you'll move on.

some girls you meet in this business will be nice to you face to face and give their number just b/c they don't want to hurt your feelings. You might have one of those here