Over the past few months this girl at my college and I have gotten to know each other very well, and spend time together every day. We've kissed and done oral, and she is a pretty great person. I wanted to date her two months after I knew her (we literally saw each other for hours every day) but she said it didn't feel right and was too soon. However, she made out with my teammate after she met me and kinda made things complicated for awhile. She said that he gave her butterflies and was newer, and that she saw me as just a friend. Then I stopped talking to her and she pretty much did a reversal on that saying she really screwed up. She seems to like the attention of a lot of guys liking her though. On top of that, she was molested by her step father and her old boyfriend cheated on her because she didn't want to have sex while she was in high school. Anyway, we made up and started doing our thing again so I asked her to for a relationship (I know some people on this site hate them but I'd be happy with her).

She said no because she wasn't ready. To me, this is usually a red flag as a nice rejection, but after she was molested she doesn't feel turned on by sexual stuff and sometimes it creeps her out (she's going to get help this summer about it). She said that before the summer wasn't the right time and especially after what she did to me and my friend, because then people would start talking again and she didn't want people to think she was a whore. She said we were really good though and she wanted to give us a try, maybe next school year.

I don't want to get dragged along by this girl. She's great and I really like her, and she does a lot of really great things for me and will practically do anything for me, except commit. I'm going to go out when I'm not working this summer and I might find another girl, but when I get back to school I'd like to be with her. Any tips on how to get with her? I know its classic to think that this girl is different and she really isn't ready...but after everything that happened to her it kind of makes sense, to me at least.

Jay-z said it best, "on to the next one."

First of all, you have been LJBF'd. That's it, it's over, move on. Find other girls. If you want, once you sarge them, get the girl to meet HB9 and tell the girl you're seeing what good friends you are with HB9. You could potentially use other girls to make her jealous and want you more (preselection.)