Expert PUAs,

I really need your help on this. Thanks in Advance.


Target
The target is an HB10. Furthermore, there are certain personality traits about her which are really attractive. She's introverted, soft spoken and spiritual (3 major attraction traits for me).


History of Target and Me

When I first met her, I didn't care for her. I thought she was just another hot girl (which we see all the time). But then after talking to her a lot and knowing her personality, I became very attracted to her.

Back then (couple months ago), she did not show the same attraction toward me. I was in her Friend-Zone and from what I saw, she had heaaaps of guys always hit on her, and many guys in her friend-zone.


2 months passed, I did not talk to her. I went and studied Mystery Method.


Now

Recently there was a mutual friend's party which I knew she'd be at.

I went into the party with a Pivot who's an HB8.
I really peacocked at this party and even got up on stage and danced (I have a dance background). Other girls were coming upto me and and even asking to dance.

Long story short, I walked up to my target and had the usual convo "ohh long time, no see..blah blah", and dropped some DHV stories. She started giving me IOIs:

- She played with her hair multiple times when I was talking to her
- When we were all dancing, she would dance in front of me to get my attention
- At one point, I poked her nose, she poked me back. This kept going

Never before did she give me any IOIs, but now she has.

As the night was ending, I said to her "hey it's been a while since we hung out, let's catch up soon". She said "sure, I'd like that", we kissed on the cheek and walked away. As I was turning, she once again, IOI'd me by playing with her hair.


Next Step??

I plan to fix a date with her soon. I figured it's all mid-game from here on.

Given our past, how should I go about Kino-Escalation on the next date?

should I try to make out with her or should I take it very slow?

And any other advice will be much appreciated... the venue to take her to, etc.

Stop putting her on a pedestal, would be a good place to start. That is how you got friend zoned the last time.
Get out of this mind set, it makes the interaction to outcome dependent.
Your going someplace cool, invite her to hang out.
Same way you would with any HB7 that you know is already going to fuck your brains out!
Is she made out of china and glass? And will easily break if you move to quickly?


Just asking!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I appreciate the brutally honest response, Heywood.

Really, I think I lost my mind over this woman. Come to think of it, she's nowhere near worth how much I was valuing her.

This!!! She is just a person...

Makes me think of that song lyric: "I met a man who came to me and said hard work good, and hard work fine but first take care of head." Basically it doesn't matter how hard you work and try, if you don't take care of your emotional/mental self...Everything else is kinda pointless.


Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Remember that women are highly sexual beings, they just want a man who can bring out this side of them. Basically what Crypto says.

If you try to take things too slow, you will either have to be VERY charming and attractive enough to see you as prime boyfriend material, or you will get friendzoned again.

Speed up the sexual escalation... she wants it just as much as any girl. If you make your relationship with her strongly sexual she will NOT friendzone, and will probably respond passionately.

If you have her number (and if you don't, WHY the hell didn¡t you get it?) then start sending her occasional cocky/funny texts. If you don't know about Cocky/Funny, read David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating" ebook, you can get it for about $14.

Examples: "On our first date I'm not going to dance with you... you only poke me in the nose. I'm going to dance with all those OTHER girls that treat me nice".

"Stop thinking about me so often and maybe I'll come true!"

"You need to go out with some boring guys so you'll appreciate me more".

Etc.

Then follow up by telling her she's going out with you. "Hey. Our first date is this Saturday. Meet me at [place] at [time], and dress sexy, I don't want to be hotter than you."

Try this and see how it works... ~50

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--== I'm just learning this stuff too, so take everything I say with a grain of salt and follow your intuition ==--

Thanks peeps,

I really appreciate the counselling.

An Update....

Heck with this girl, now I'm starting to see a different side to her.

Back when I was in her friendzone, we would send long messages very rapidly.

Yesterday I sent her a message and invited her to a dinner / get together that we're hosting tomorrow. She still hasn't responded. But she's on facebook, replying to others etc. It's very unlike what I knew of her, before.

But I'm not giving up just yet...

Thanks Bro. If she doesn't respond by the event tomorrow, I'm gonna write back using cocky / funny and asking.