So theres a girl in my college who I've known for a few months. She seemed really sweet and we had a good bond and began making out (I always thought that this was a key to not get FZed). We have been making out for about two months and we had a great bond, we'd do things together and she'd tell me a lot but really cared about me. The other week she even took off her shirt and had me feel her boobs. She told me she loved me and wanted to be with me but just wasn't ready to commit (she had a lot of boy trouble in her past) to a label but that she wasn't getting with any other guy. Then, today I find out that she's been lying to me for months and has been hooking up with my teammate and telling him lies too. I loved this girl and thought we had something, but then this morning she said lets be best friends and I found out about her getting with this other guy. I'm really conflicted on how to act, is there even a way out?

Why be with someone who lies to you and cheats on you. Move on to a better chick.

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Ya thats what I'm telling myself but I was deeply in love with her and she was everything to me. I'm devastated. I know she shouldn't deserve my time of day because if she lies and cheats now she will later but I guess part of me still wants her.

Go no contact with her dude, this girl is toxic.

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About the love you profess to feel for her, I think that is mostly self-deception and self-pity. Self-deception because you can't love her that much given the fact that you hardly even know her. You haven't had sex with her, you've known her for only a few months, and she even lied to you about important things. You love your parents, other family, and maybe some friends that you have known for a long time. Can you really say you have similar feelings for this girl? I'm pretty sure the answer is no. You don't love her, you just like her, and you want to fuck her. And that's where the self-pity comes in. It's hard to accept that she didn't reciprocate the feelings that you did have for her, and it's hard to accept that she lied to you. It's hard because then it is no longer 'if she lies and cheats now she will [also do that] later', but a blow to the ego right fucking now.

Accepting the facts that your feelings for her are mostly like and lust, and that you have been rejected and lied to, will eventually make you feel better than wallowing in self-pity and self-deception. And, like I implied earlier, there is no better way to speed up this process than getting with another girl.

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Thanks guys. She told me that the reason it didn't work out was because "I didn't give her butterflies." I know some girls aren't attracted to some men, but she went farther with me than just a friend she wanted to make happy (that was her excuse for everything and maybe its true). But is there any way to work on giving girls that feeling? I felt like I was pretty good with her but I guess not.

Women fall in love with the guy who fucks her brains out.

You put this girl on a purity pedestal so high, you almost didn't want to fuck her in case you ruined that image of her purity. After 2 months of making out, you didn't get the message that she wanted sex, she got so desperate that she had to rip her own shirt off to force something sexual to happen. Can you blame her for looking for someone else? After 2 months without sex, a woman will be horny as hell. Most women I know want sex every day.

She told me that she didn't want sex until she fully knew the person and was with them for awhile. I kinoed her and felt her sexually but we didn't have sex because she said she wanted to wait. I was alright with this because I assumed it was coming soon and she had problems regarding sex in the past, but I guess I just fell for her game.

The "I'm not ready for sex" and "Had bad experience in the past is BS." Women respond emotionally, not logically, make this your mantra. She can kiss you but can't fuck you? What exactly did these men do to her once they got her panties off? Whatever it is, I'm pretty sure it was a shit test. I've had women say things like "Oh, I don't want to move too fast...." or "Promise me you won't fk me." and we'd bang that same night, and we'd subsequently bang other nights. Man up, the other posters are going easy on you. Two months of making out? I'd have given her the boot after two days if things weren't progressing. She's not toxic. You need to learn from this, and you need to read up on a little something called "oneitis." How to remedy this situation? Learn from these forums, then fk her friends, that WILL get her attention, however, at this point, you just won't care.

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Thanks. She literally cried when she was saying how she was sexually assaulted by a family member and stuff.

Anyway, it seems like she wants to FZ me even after we've kissed a lot. I thought kissing was a key to get out of the FZ (and obviously sex and stuff is too but she was sincere that she's not ready and doesn't want it yet after what happened to her, I'm almost positive), but is there any way to get out of the FZ with her now? Usually its kiss her but thats been done too many times to count