So basically I'm 20 and a relative newbie to PUA and totally inexperienced with woman in general (virgin, kissed less than a handful of girls in the last four years - all drunk) and looking to improve game.

Last night a solid 7.5, maybe 8 came near me and my mates with a couple of her friends, started backing into me and looking over her shoulder, then turned round and looked at me. I said 'Hey, hows it going' and was already at this point feeling pretty nervous / excited.

She turned back round to her friends, then before I knew it came back over to me and put her arms round my neck and came up real close to me. I put my hands round her waist and literally had no idea what to say, and started asking throw-away questions in her ear like 'Where are you from?' and 'Do you go to university?'. I also felt a fair bit of pressure coming from my mates who looked surprised but also equally hopeful for me as she was coming on so strong.

Problem was, I couldn't hear what she was saying in response and I felt an awkwardness coming from both the conversation and both her mates and mine looking at us. She left to put her drink down, came back and held me close again and then we sort of separated into our groups, but still close. I turned round and then she was sat on the floor, and I didn't know whether she'd fallen or not, and her mate eventually said 'If you were a man you'd have helped her up', and then they all left.

I guess what I'm after is help on how to talk to or interact with a girl on the dancefloor. I don't have much problem with talking or opening girls in the day (although I suck at sexual escalation) but its frustrating that even when it feels like all the work has been done for me, I mess it up (this scenario has happened before). I'm in the weird situation where I don't think I'm bad looking, but I know my game is terrible, perhaps largely due to the stigma of virginity. Should I just research game in general, or dancefloor game specifically, and should I try and go on the pull without my mates? I also go to University (college) and therefore perhaps could learn more about that.

I appreciate that girl was probably pretty drunk but any advice on how to handle drunk girls as well as girls that are more of a challenge would be appreciated. It just seems to make sense that I sort out how to handle a girl that is easy (yet attractive) first.

Thanks for any advice in advance - sorry for the long post.

1. Did you tell the questions to her on the dancefloor?
2. Did she really answered the questions and was hearing what you were saying?

Try pulling her of the dancefloor to a more quiet area, that will make it much easier to acutally hear the other person.

Yeah, but she seemed kinda confused as to why I was asking the questions. For example when I said 'Where are you from, are you from here?', I'm pretty sure she just said... 'Yeah...' and then I hurredly asked if she was at college or not as a sort of time-filler. I live in a fairly small city in which its almost guaranteed that she was from my area, and I don't know if I'd gain any sort of comfort especially on the dancefloor.

I think I had to ask the questions a couple of times, but she definitely recognised a sort of awkwardness about the situation especially I think around the fact that I kept looking at my friends nervously as they were all looking at me and it was such a new scenario for me.

I can understand how taking her to a booth with seats could then be a place to ask more about her, and build comfort there, but on the dancefloor I have no idea what to say. I see other guys talking into girls ears and I see how that's a great way to build kino and sexually escalate (as well as a transition into a kiss), even though 99% of guys in my area aren't thinking that.

If she has pretty much opened me then should I just avoid any openers like 'Do you prefer X or Y?', should I try to sexually escalate quickly without building comfort, or should I go for the kiss without building comfort? It seems to me that its already become sexual if she's put her arms around me, but that raises another question as to whether I should just accept her embrace or push her off a bit as well?

Sorry I've got so many questions, as you can tell I'm pretty new to this.

This happens to me every time I pull a girl out to dance. I get too chatty.

Be careful with this, it could turn into a habit and as such; a hard thing to change.

Next time you say anything to a girl don`t let it be a question. Communicate desire of her; or if it`s a question let it be something in the lines of: Have you any idea how hard it is to control myself and not to kiss you right now?

You might get a: "What`s stopping you?" in response.

Cheers man, makes a lot of sense! Can you (or anyone else) recommend any material on the subject?