bro i think you're being an asshole to her. i mean i get the push pull thing that you're trying but its too much push in my opinion.
you know how attraction has 2 faces: one is you make her attracted to you, and the ther is you show her why you are attracted to her. this last one you are lacking from what i'm reading.
you should be giving more love. for example:
"Im under the palm trees enjoing the sun and beach. Wish you (Name) were here, so you can make me some wind by waving a big palm leaf above me and serve me grapes."
should have been
"Im under the palm trees enjoing the sun and beach. Wish you (Name) were here,
you would love this."
note how its not "Wish you (Name) were here, i want you in my arms girl" or some cheese thing, by saying "you would love this" you indicate that you pay attention to what she loves and you know stuff about her, and you wish her well, but not too much interest.
make her feel good, appreciated, loved, safe. pushing should be only used after the pull. and pushing is not to lower her self esteem, its so she feels compelled to go after you, and to calibrate.
i think she might stop responding to you on facebook because you say something really asshole-ish and she simply doesn't feel compelled to answer that.
in regards to the pool incident:
a great example is that as david wygant says, when you invite a girl out, you should first know something special about her or something that she loves in order to ask her to go out and do something related to that, i think this is why you have the "does it have to be pool?" problem.
here's the link. great stuff.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1jOawUIbMk
im going to be blunt here, i think the "im deleting your number because you're not going out with me" is the single worst thing you could have done. now you're just an asshole in her view, i know this because i've done the exact thing and blew the set away. the worst part is that women talk, and you as you say, made her angry, so she must have tolled every girl she's close with what you did.
i think you should forget her and learn from your mistakes for next time, because if you keep trying you are just going to stick yourself deeper in this mess and you may come off as creepy for keep trying.
the rule of thumb is from "simple pickup" (love those guys check them out): is if she's smiling, keep going. (if she's not STOP!)
lastly, to eject from any girl situation, once you've screwed up just don't initiate conversations unless you're obliged to, dont hit on her, be nice to her but dont pay much attention to her and YOU FRIENDZONE HER. if you can, cut her off from your life, if you have to keep seeing her just treat her well and do not hit on her unless one of her friends comes up to you and is like "do you still like (name)?" then you still have a chance, otherwise thats the end of it.
sorry to be so blunt about all this, but in my opinion its the best and only way. we are men, we can take it.
hope it helps, of course its nothing personal, im trying to help, and its just my opinion anyways.
Owen
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