Okay so a little background with this chick...

Met in a bar about two months ago, through a direct opener. She was really into it, but she had to leave early cuz she was going back to school the next day. She texted me after a bunch and then again two weeks later out of nowhere.

The other day im in a town close to where she goes to school and I ask her if shes around. She says no but says "you should just come to {her college}" to which I respond "well invite me down sometime" and she says "come whenever"

So this week I told her I was coming down and staying with a friend at the same school -- to which she seemed pretty excited about -- I cant tell if shes just really nice, but I think she definitely has some interest. So tonight my friend texts me saying shes really sick, so she cant go out this weekend. so i've lost my place to crash, but I really wanna see this chick.

I'm debating whether I should ask if I can stay at her place -- something like "so my friend is really sick, so unless you know of a couch I can crash on, I don't think I can make it this weekend" -- and seeing what she does with that. Id be cool crashing with some of her dude friends even, i dont care. I know I'm too into this chick, I'm not sure why, so I need an objective observer here. she said "come whenever" which seems like a clear invite, but I really don't know this chick all that well so I don't know if she'd be comfortable with me staying there. We do have a ton of mutual friends in common, so she knows Im not a weirdo or anything. Help me out here. Don't say "forget about her, you have oneitis" -- the goal here is for me to bang this chick, so I'm only looking for opinions and a sanity check on what to say to her if anything.

I would go for something that wouldnt make me come across as desperate and at the same time flirty and playful. your text was alright but check this one, be like 'my friend is sick so i cant sleep over at her/his place so illl be unable to make it.. any ideas? if i cant make it this weekend well plan something later'

Sounds like you're trying to hard here and she will definitely know it if you ask to crash at her place. You need to stick to your plan that you'll crash at your friends place. If you can't do it this weekend, then try again next week. Don't make a big deal out of it. Just play it casual and tell her "change of plans, can't make it."

OR

Go there anyway just like everything's cool, hang out with her, game on, and then later you'll get a text from your friend saying she's really sick and you can't stay there. This will put your girl on the spot and if she won't let you stay there, she'll more than likely find you a couch somewhere. But you should have the attitude that you'll get her in the sack or sleep in your car. Ballz out, bro. If you want it, go get it. 100%!

Good luck

basically went with this, and she said "I mean youre always welcome on our couch" to which I said "that works, we'll talk tomorrow"

tomorrow comes and I ask her if its still cool and she sends me this: "Hey! so i have an exam tomorrow so i dont know if i can make it out...but youre more than welcome to stay here! I feel bad because I wont be a good host but my roommates will definitely be going out!"

Me: "oh no worries then, we'll find another time that works better"
her: "Sounds good! Sorry next week is spring break so classes are insane right now"

I think i may have overplayed my hand here and she bailed last minute, which is understandable because I honestly barely know this chick. She definitely seemed genuinely into me earlier, but i think I may have seemed too eager by basically volunteering myself to stay at her place. She really does have exams though so that is a legit excuse, so I'm not sure. If i sit back, I dont think shes gonna invite me out of the blue to come stay with her, so plan now is to try and crash at my friends place in a few weekends and meet up with her that way.