So there's this girl...

I know, not very original. But this is a very weird situation for me and any advice would be appreciated.
She's been in this relationship for a little more than a year. He's verbally abusive and it recently escalated to physical abuse. They broke up, worked things out and got back together.

They started fighting all the time again and she left him after everyone told her too. While the relationship was over I stepped in and my efforts have been successful so far. (She stayed at my house with some other people and we had a great time. I kiss closed before we slept together in my bed) but now she wants to go back to him because she says all of her feeling are still there.

I really want to get her out of this relationship. First of all because I like her a lot and I know she likes me. Second, nobody needs to be in a relationship like the one she's in.

I've tried everything I've got and I can't get her over him. So can I get a little expert advice here?

-Sevy

That's not something you can control, and not something you should want to control. She needs to realize she shouldn't be in that relationship on her own. And you wouldn't want to be with a girl with that kind of mental instability and that would kiss another guy while in a relationship. Just sayin'.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

One word: baggage.

I've dealt with it before and it's not a good scenario to get yourself involved in. For the sake of her well being I do suggest trying to help her out of it but leave yourself on the outside. You don't want to get involved - at least not anytime soon. You will not be able to convince her she's in an abusive relationship only she can come to a realization on her own. Asking the right questions will bring about answers that may make her see but telling her what it is will only throw up the defenses.

As for you moving into that spot, bad news. You're only creating hell for yourself. She's gonna need some healing time and the dust needs to settle. He is her world and will be for a little while until she learns to live without him. You're gonna get hurt in the process.

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I see it all perfectly; There are two possible situations - one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it - either way you will regret it.
-Soren Kierkegaard