| i sometimes start to talk about things that i am passionate about.
granted, i've changed a lot in the last two years or so, but previously, after hearing what a girl had to say, i'd often alter what i thought to better match what she is saying. while this works in some situations, it led me to feel as if i was trying to assimilate myself into her thought process, which is retarded.
so to stop myself from doing that, i'd flat out lead the conversation by talking about what i want to talk about. while ultimately, a balance between the two might be important, this to me was a good thing to practice for several reasons.
first, you weed out girls who aren't interested in what you are interested in. i prefer being with girls that have some degree of similarities with me, or at least share some hobbies/values.
second, it teaches you to be more confident in yourself and what you like, which is a very useful quality to have. do not confuse this with the "i-don't-give-a-fuck-attitude," as they are similar, but not the same.
third -- and this is quite tertiary -- if you say it first and she follows along with you, this ultimately puts you in a stronger position.
and last, if you talk about things you are truly passionate about, your fervor will more often than not draw them in and help them to open up and talk about things that they, too, are passionate about. you have to pay to play, man. _________________ from the 808 state with aloha!
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