So this girl and I have been flirting for the past three months. Just to note, she was the one that approached me ( sent me a message on facebook asking me if i played soccer). But the past month has been really confusing. About a week or two ago, I found out she had a boyfriend. This really made me upset and I ended up confessing to her I don't think we can be friends because I like you more than one and you have a boyfriend. I also mentioned I had just gotten out of a tough relationship. I was surprised what she texted back. They had just broken up " I just got out of one too." So we spent the whole night texting about it. The next day I was walking her to class and her ex walked by. It got really awkward and I almost wanted to fight him. What he did to her was so wrong. His friend had told him that my girl was about to break up with him. Without even consulting her he just did it. Anyways after that we started to get close. We had some really intimate conversations and she started to open up to me. To cut to the chase. Today I was really pissed off because when I went to the library for lunch ( she knows I normally go there) she was with her ex. They were sitting together and I just acted passive about it. She still interacted with me but I don't understand what she sees in him? He's a short scrawny sophomore ( she's a sophomore too). Not to blow my own horn but I work really hard to keep myself in shape ( varsity soccer player/wrestler) and I know that doesn't matter but considering how much we've connected what more does she want? I'd be pissed if she was just using me to get back her ex.

Mate you need to chill. Don't get upset/angry/pissed off over this sort of stuff.

First, talking to her about her 'problems' all night over her ex is the sort of thing a girl does to a guy friend - not someone she wants to fuck. So I'd definitely stop listening to her issues and being 'there for her'. That won't help.

Anyway as I said, you seem frustrated. If she picks up on those vibes, it can scream desperation and jealously a bit and you wouldn't want her to think that right. Big turn off. So what she was sitting with her ex? That shouldn't matter to you. Your a MAN.

Less asking loads of ifs and buts, just play your own game and be cool about it. Trust. Giving reasons and saying stuff like 'I've got all this, I get in shape, what more can she want?'....come on bro, have some style. Get her to chase that!

All the guys on here will tell you so much more on that and I don't know the details of your situation that well, but I think you need to relax and be cooler about this first off - definitely a different mindset anyway.

(Don't be put off by the fact I'm no regular poster here, I know my way around )

Good luck bro.

Thanks mate! yeah thats pretty much what my sister and friends said, and luckily i didnt do anything stupid and just acted indifferent about it