I was at a local bar tonight and had a solid open with a 21yo BH10 the conversation was great some kino, and laughing and awesome eye contact. Just couldn't keep the convo going long enough. I leave to use the mens room for 3 mins and when I get back shes chatting up with 3 guys. We were sitting side by side at the bar and she turned her back on me to talk to these guys. I kind of lost my motivation at that point after seeing that and decided to cut my losses and cash out and head home. Overall disappointing night, I know I could have number closed with her, but said F-it and left. Still don't know what I did that. I spent about 3 hours drinking, laughing and doing shots with her, just couldn't escalate it for some stupid reason. On my way out she did ask if I would be there tomorrow.

Next time disarm the guys by saying hey what's up guys, reach your hand in to get hers and say "I need talk to you for a second?", like there's something wrong. after you have her back to the guys smile and say with a smart ass smirk "Miss me?". Do you know how ballsy that will look on your part? It'll bring up your value through the freaking roof! what do you have to lose??

I have this experience before, unfortunately, I have not got any good suggestion for you. The only bad thing not going to do is waiting those guys finishing the conversation with your target. No waiting! If you wait and keep stare back to her, things will get worse.

I know what to say and do, its just getting the balls to do it. I'm still overcoming some social anxiety issues I've had in the past.

One thing I will say about this is look at this as an example of what to do when a girl gets up and leaves you. Just go over and start talking to another set, that way when she returns she'll see you being the social butterfly and she'll have to try to seek your attention again.

It's a really dicey game when you are competing for someone's attention. Because they are 100% engaged with another person, then you distract them, and now all of a sudden they are 100% engaged with you. You could've waited until a lull in their conversation, or for one of the dudes to order drinks from the bar, then re-initiate conversation with her. Then all of a sudden those guys would be in that awkward situation you were in! They won't want to be rude and interupt a girl who is talking to another guy. And like you, they'll just assume they lost her attention/favor.

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