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| Phreakasa | PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 10:04 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:32 pm Posts: 13 | | So I got in touch with girl from my class (about an 8 on my subjective scale).
We share a class twice a week and a train ride once a week.
I don't really know how to talk to her in class, because she's always with her (only) girlfriend.
But when being on the train we chat. Not really anything special, mostly Uni stuff and sometimes we run out of stuff to talk about > silence. Somehow can't get her talking about anything else. It seems, as if she doesn't do anything more interesting then studying or do I just lack conversational skills.
Want to get it to the next stage, my propositions: Ask her for a coffee sometime or ask her to learn together (danger of the friend zone?).
What do you guys mean?
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| Lafftar | PostPosted: Wed Nov 28, 2012 11:52 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Tue Nov 20, 2012 11:52 pm Posts: 10 | | I don't think you should ask her to coffee straight away, i think you should build some sort of emotion other than the depression associated with university work. Maybe run a routine on her? I find the "Is this cheating? (Yknow, roommate with the shoebox?)" Routine works very welll in bringing out emotional responses from girls. It just gets them going, it's like magic. I'm new to this too and i'm just trying to help but i think you should wait for someone more experienced before going ahead.
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| puaninja | PostPosted: Thu Nov 29, 2012 2:26 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Fri Aug 10, 2012 12:27 pm Posts: 2817 | | Yea, opinion opener material might work here. If you talk about yourself, she'll just sit and listen. If you ask her about herself, she'll give you a very short description. But if you ask her opinion about some complex situation, she'll have to actually think and express her views with more than a one sentence answer. _________________ “Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn
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| Phreakasa | PostPosted: Fri Nov 30, 2012 5:32 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:32 pm Posts: 13 | | Any good examples?
Btw, we do sms from time to time. I try not to or to keep my message short...
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| puaninja | PostPosted: Fri Nov 30, 2012 6:51 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Fri Aug 10, 2012 12:27 pm Posts: 2817 | | Here's a few bits I like to run. I actually used these at thanksgiving just to make small talk with friends. Remember, this type of material can work on all kinds of sets, even if its men or women you are not interested in romantically.
"Who lies more, men or women? I think men lie more because women condition them to lie (or teach them)."
"What's your sign? Do you believe in astrology? Did you know that 90% of women believe in it while 90% of men don't? Why do you think that is?"
"Should the bride and groom pay for the bridesmaids dresses for their wedding, or make the bridesmaids pay? I think the bride and groom should pay since it's their wedding and they are financially resposible for it. I was a groomsman and they made me pay for my tuxedo rental. I think that was lame of them." _________________ “Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn
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| MrMatt | PostPosted: Fri Nov 30, 2012 7:45 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Mon Sep 27, 2010 2:41 am Posts: 467 | | Have you even considered that maybe she is not all about school, but it's simply because YOU can't get her to talk about anything else?
I wouldn't go for a coffee or anything straight away.. You still have a lot to do.
Why don't you start talking about more personal stuff?
Ask her something like *Hey it seems that you're all about school! Don't you do anything else that you like beside school?*
Get her to talk about her passions, dreams, etc. _________________ Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,
Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!
Sincerely, the Opportunist
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