Cheers for the above advice
Would love a bit more though
So were going away next sunday, its getting closer and closer. Also since my last post, appart from saterday, we have been togeather basically every evening for hours. Two nights in a row we slept in the same bed, first there was mild cuddeling, seccond it was a bit more intense, nothing deffinate. We allways talk about how we are having dates, and descuss our relationship. She said that she felt guilty, and she really neaded to confess (shes not really religious but you get the point). On saterday, the only day we wernt togeather, she wanted me to go out with her, however her bf was out and i really didnt want to go as i knew i would feel like shite, she wanted me to go as well so she wouldnt have to get home on her own, which i felt was weird as she could just go home with her bf, which in the end she did, duno if i did the right thing by not going, but i dont want to become her bitch. The whole relationships just really intense, night before last she came round and at the end of the night, about 4, i was walking her to her flat,(about two mins away) and she was making loads of hints about not wanting to stay and being scared, but i just acted a bit aloof. We then had this text conversation:
me: Do you want to stay over?
Her: Do you?
Me: Im in bed, so i am already.
Her: Are you asking me because you feel obligated? whatta shame
Me: i guess (this allways winds her up)
Her: Difficult
Her: I actually do but your room is to hot so ill have to brave it on my own.
Me: I turned it off but i do think you have to grow (not physically and become braver).
Her: i need to grow in both ways.
there was more along those lines, she asked weather i wanted to sleep round hers, but i kindov didnt like the idea of walking over and her opening the door to me all eager to just cuddle. so in the end we just stayed in our rooms.
So yesterday was bassically a date, we had dinner and then went to the cinema, which was a bit corny but i really wanted to go to see a film and she just invited herself. We then walked back, holding hands, there were just loads of moments when we were staring at eachother, a bit to close, for ages, you know those moments, when you should go for it, there were just loads, but the bf just made it impossible. I remember it being just the most rediculous thing, when at like 1.30 in the morning we were lying on a swing in a deserted park ontop her ontop of me, having random banter, and she was like "this is such a weird relationship."
Yesterday she said some interesting things as well, were in her kitchen and one of her flat mates started bitching about her bf, and this girl, was like "yeh boyfriends are so annoying." She also said at some point that she missed that beggining of a relationship feeling.
So stuffs getting kindov silly and it needs to get sorted, I kindov would love to know, have i become her fluffer (i do however feel that theres too much sexuall charge but that might just be me)? Is cuddeling good or bad? does it increase closeness and attraction, or remove sexual fire, kino is kino. Should i try and make a move when the moments right, only thing is, its so much harder making a move on a girl in a relationship. Should i bring up the situation and ask her weather she would dump her bf. Should i hurry up, dont want to be put in the, mental sexual frustration friend zone. What should i do?
Sorry about the length boys, i appreceate all who read, thanks.