Hi,

I am trying to seduce this girl on my campus, and I know for a fact that she has many guys around her. It also seems like she is dating a few guys. So now my question is, how should I act to crush the competition?

Obviously, I can't act like I know she is dating guys, since that will put me in her frame, and I should act cool about it.. But now I am not sure if I should actively pursue after her or ... what? I am a bit afraid that if I act some what too passive, other guys might snatch her away.

Help please gurus!!

Do the same thing she is doing - date other girls, game lots of girls, dont be stuck in one-itis.

I am no guru, I do not even consider my self a PUA, but I've studied Pandora's Box
and this has heped me a lot.
According to Pandora's Box she is a
Tester. The best strategy for a Tester is to
CONVEY that you're dating other women (if you really do it the better and imo
is a healthier approach than wanting a relationshp of any type
with a girl who multi-dates).
But you must CONVEY it, not say it in words or brag. You have to walk
a fine line to do it, try it and if it doesnt work......
Next girl, try again, someday you'll do it

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''It ain't about how hard you hit,
it's about how hard you can get hit an keep moving forward,
how much you can take and keep moving forward.
That's how win it is done.''

Prove her that you are someone she can commit to, above the rest of the guys she's dating. If you try to act like a player or a douchebag, you'll ruin your chances immediately.

How do I "convey" that I am dating another women, without saying it?

Also, Ladypearl, how would you show a girl that you are someone the girl can commit to. The difficult part is that since there are a lot of guys around her, I do not want to be one of those guys by falling into her venus trap.

You shouldnt say to her directly that you are dating other girls. She should see the player inside of you, she should see the guy who can talk and flirt with girls anywhere anytime. You have to have that "cool guy mindset". I hope you are that guy.

Really man, game other girls. That is the best advice we all can give you. I was stuck in one-itis for a bit, when i realized i have to game other girls. Trust me, that is all normal.

And if she's really dating others, she will find it normal if you do so.
Finally, not a pick-up advice but an advice I would
give to any friend of mine: Dont be concerned that much with a girl who's
playnig the field. Usually they are beatiful but very few of them
have a personality worthy of such attention.
Peace.

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''It ain't about how hard you hit,
it's about how hard you can get hit an keep moving forward,
how much you can take and keep moving forward.
That's how win it is done.''

"Dont be concerned that much with a girl who's
playnig the field. Usually they are beatiful but very few of them
have a personality worthy of such attention."

Damn. That moved my heart. Thanks guys! Really appreciate all the comments being given.

Just for history, write us how things went with her.
Also, if my comment really moved your heart, then I feel great and
you made my day. Good luck!

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''It ain't about how hard you hit,
it's about how hard you can get hit an keep moving forward,
how much you can take and keep moving forward.
That's how win it is done.''

I definitely will keep you updated, and probably will use your comment to my friend if you don't mind me borrowing :p.
Actually this is what happened today. She chatted me online and said..

Background Info: She's a senior in college and just took a test in one of her classes, and she thinks she did terribly on it.

Girl: FKK I failed my test
Me: I am sure you did fine its ok
Girl: I totally failed.. I am drinking by myself at home
Girl: Fkkk
Me: lolll aww by yourself? don't drink by yourself I will be your drinking buddy
Girl: you should come over and drink with me!! (this was typed almost simultaneously as what I typed above)
Girl: I already drank 2-3 beers in 30 mins
Me: you need to slow down if you want to stay sober by the time i get there
Girl: hahah you can catch up with mee!!
Girl: but, no you really dont have to come.. I am just ranting to you about how i failed my test
and how i have to do well for the fina;
me: lollll did u eat?
Minna: not yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!
me: lets go eat
i'll treat u out
Girl: well but 1 of my friends is coming by on her lunch break to bring me food
ahahaa
so thanks anyways!
me: what is she bringing?
Girl: sandwhich
ahhahaaha
me: LOL
cmon u js took a midterm
u dun wanna eat subway
actually eat that for lunch
Girl: iz ok
i love sandwich
so beer and sandwich =heaven
me: lolll its good that u r not hard to plesae
Girl: NOPE
ahhahahaa
k ttyl ima go get my sandwich
tis here
=DDDDDDDDdd
me: hahah ok

this girl is giving me some confusing ass signs.. she is telling me to come over, and the next moment she says no it is fine..

Honestly, I kind of lost my calmness and got excited while chatting with her because she had high energy when she was msging me (I guess it is true that energy spills over). Then I sort of bit the bait when she said, "you should drink with me."

I feel like she is sort of testing the water or casting a wide net to see which guys get caught in her web.. and perhaps I've totally fell into her venus trap. What do you guys think? I have always struggled with this kind of girls, (who sorta appear to be interested in you but dont make definite moves and have lots of guys around her..) I would really like to finally learn to deal with these sort of girls but it seems like this is going to be a long journey.. hahah

I would gladly take any views on this situation and advice!

Thanks for having interest in my struggle!

Just testing.

Testing.. hmm what was she testing? And if she did.. I have a feeling I did not pass the first test.. loll what should I have done instead then?

Any help would be great!!

Hate to bring it to you, but this text game was pretty bad. First of all you are quite AFC throughout the whole thing.

Girl: FKK I failed my test
Me: I am sure you did fine its ok

This is the whole "be really sweet to women, and they will love you" bullshit. I'm sorry, it just doesn't work.

The same goes for " I'll be your drinking buddy". "You need to slow down." and probably the worst "I'll take you out to eat, my treat." You are placing her on a pedestall.. It's quite basic game and you'll find examples of this all over the forum and in books. To be honest, I can't be spesific about what you should do different, because then I'd have to write a looong article about basic game.

My best advice is to simply read up on some more game and start applying it! And one for the go - Be the prize! Don't TRY to please her or w/e. SHE is the one that should struggle to get you! (you can tell it works by the " you should come over and drink with me!!" If you had held your horses, this would be your free entry.

As to what she was testing. You must've made a pretty good first impression, because she was ready to jump right into your frame! She was ready to put up a fight to get you, but you made it too easy.

Can you imagine anything worse than preparing for a match (of any kind), you psych up, you warm up, you are fucking ready to kick ass! You almost run screaming out in to the field, you are ready to play the game of your life. And then, even before it starts, the opponent forfeits.

And please, don't take this as flaming of any kind. I'm not trying to make you mad or anything, I just want to hand you some constructive critisism.

One last thing, you should read "How to become an Alpha Male" By John Alexander. It's a great book about basic man/woman psychology, and it will give you a really good ground layer for game!

Hope this helps, and happy hunting!

- The Dice

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

Definitely. I do agree that I should've held my horses.. I got too excited. Ah.. So you are saying I shouldn't have been all nice and stuff.. I was thinking about saying something else but I was afraid that it would have been a bad timing since she was already in a bad mood and was freaking out.

And thanks for the comments, I def do not take any offense in anyone's attempt to help me improve!

Thanks!!