Ok guys, not sure if I'm posting in the right place. I was gonna go with 'relationships' but read the sticky and decided against it. This is a long one so you'll have to bear with me.

Ok so I lived in Plymouth, UK a few months back. My gf at the time moved 270 miles away to Milton Keynes to look after her sick mother. We had a kid together but I was only there for my daughter. I got a job in Milton Keynes and decided to move. In my last week in Plymouth, work threw a leaving do for me. One of the girls I used to work with came on strong and I didn't hold back. We kissed, talked and danced the night away. it would have gone further if I didn't get so drunk I ended up on the bathroom floor!!

Anyway the next day I woke up with her cigarette case in my boxer shorts (still not really sure why!). I never got her number and I'd left work now so I couldn't go in. I called work and said to them, "look I need to get hold of ***, I know you can't give me her number but can you please pass my number on to her and ask her to call me" they obliged and an hour or so later I got a call from her. I went round and handed her cigarette case to her, she invited me in for a cup of tea. I walked in the door thinking I was in, turned the corner in to her kitchen and she lives with her young niece who would not give us a moments peace ARSE!! So I left there after my cup of tea, got back to mine and started texting the girl. After a little casual flirting I text her saying, "Fuck it, I've only got another week down here, fancy making it a good one?" She declined and I left it. 2 days later she gets back to me asking me to come round and that her niece was out.

I was in, i went round, we shared a bottle of wine on her sofa and fucked all night, never had a night like it before. There was no sleep, I was there from about 7pm until 11am with no sleep until I just couldn't take anymore!! I head back to mine and sleep, she invites me round again. I ended up spending every day and night with her that week. We started to chat more and everything went really well, we got on and she was fun. I didn't feel trapped anymore. She showed me I could be with someone fun.

It came to the end of that week, I had my stuff packed up and I left. I was gutted to be leaving her behind, she'd made a massive impact on my life in a week. I get to Milton Keynes and everything fell apart. I called the Plymouth girl and I said I was thinking of coming back, she said not to come back for her, but to come back for my own reasons. Fair statement, Ill sit and chew this one over.

After a while I packed all my stuff again and headed back to Plymouth. I had nowhere to live so the Plymouth girl said, "If we're gonna make a go of this and if you're as crazy about me as I am about you, move in with me" I thought about it and I knew it wasn't a great idea but I had nowhere else to go. For 2 months it worked, we got on really well, I had no job but I was looking so it was ok. After that i found a job working from home, I was there 24/7 she wanted her own space back. We argued for a couple of weeks and I moved out but she wanted to stay together.

Ok so i moved out and I started to think she was seeing someone else. She wasn't but it got in my head and it wouldn't go away. I went on a date with her a few days after I moved out and it went great. We had a good time, I tactically left my car keys at hers so I had an excuse to go back to her place after the date. We get back to hers and sat up drinking and talking, we were getting on great again. She offers me up to bed but I tell her no, I'll sleep on the sofa I don't wanna put too much pressure on us (try and gain a few respect points!!).

The morning after, I'm collecting the rest of my stuff from her house and it was really awkward. Although we had an amazing night last night, I'm moving out today, it was a real mind fuck. She was awkward with me too.

So i went back to where I was staying and I didn't hear from her the next day. i started to think, oh shit that's it. Two days later this random skanky girl starts flirting with me on FB. I needed an ego boost so i went with it. I was never going to meet the girl but in the meantime I'll take the compliments and inflate my ego, build my confidence back up. As soon as it got to a point where she wanted to meet I told her no, and not to contact me again. That day I get a text from the girl I'd moved out from. I train over by her place for the local hockey team. She asked me if I could go over and walk her dogs because she wont be around to do it. Yeah ok, it gets me back in her head, I'll do it. I went round, put some flowers in a vase and took her dogs out for her. I went to the hockey training and text her afterwards. I just asked if I could stay on her (my) sofa because training finished late and I had a long drive back to where I was staying. She said yeah but she wont finish work til late. No probs I went in and started talking to her niece while I waited for her to get home.

She comes in through the door, comes running to me with the biggest smile on her face and kisses me like I was some kind of returning army guy! Awesome, this is exactly where I wanna be. We stayed up drinking and chatting to the early hours and I had my FB on her laptop when I receive a message from this random skank which brings up all the old messages. She sees everything and ended it.

I saw her yesterday and got there at around 2pm. We talked things over, she had calmed down a lot. We discussed things that nobody else knows, every little detail about each other. No hiding anything now, all my scars and my shit is out in the open, but then so is hers.

She said to me that she's not making any promises but that she would stay friends with me and maybe in the future we can build on that. Well ok that wasn't great but it's a dam sight further on than I was at the beginning of the weekend.

The drink flows a bit more and she comes back in to the kitchen while I cook dinner. Comes up really close to me to me and says, "How about friends with benefits?". I said I didn't really think that was a good idea but before I finished talking she was on me like a rash. I pushed her off me gently and said, "You've gotta be sure about this because I don't want to ruin any future chance of us being together by jumping in to bed with you drunk" she wasn't giving up so I politely carried on!! We had the best sex last night, I still haven't slept since 6am yesterday, it's now nearly 5pm today!! I left hers and text her something like, I had a really good night, was great to see you again. No regrets about last night? She text back saying no regrets but for the time being we are only friends, and that she's making no promises about our future. Also that she wants me to remain her secret but that she wants to go sex toy shopping with me and maybe meet up at a B&B every now and then.


This may sound like every guys dream but I want this girl, I appreciate I fucked it up. The mental and physical attraction is there. We get on. Everything seems to have gone backwards with her. How do I get my new fuckbuddy back to being my old girlfriend?!


Sorry it's so long and sorry if it's in the wrong place, just wanna know you guys thoughts. Thanks