Theres this college chick (freshmen, so about my age.....im eighteen) who works at this local coffee shop/thrift store and shes fuckin adorable. Whenever i go in there to get a 99 cent arizona tea, shes always working there, and my guess is that out of the few employees they have, she puts in the most hours. She always gives off this sparkling, fun, bubbly energy that i love, almost as if she could just go on forever and talk, but obviously not in an annoying way, as her face makes the clock in my pants go from 6 to 12. So i asked her if they were hiring a couple days ago, and she told me that they needed people. They didnt have any applications, so she had me write my name and number down and not even two days later (today, in fact) she called and left a voicemail on my machine saying that she talked to her boss and just got some apps in and for me to come in if i was still "interested". I went in and we chatted and had a couple laughs and im going in tomorrow to ask her some questions about the job and why in the hell id even wanna work there in the first place. Maybe i can even evaluate her a bit without being creepy or acting too concerned. Im just trying to make some more conversation, but conversation is dead boring and is worth nothing without emotional content. So, i guess my question is, any pointers guys? I was thinking o pulling the ESP routine, saying that my friend an i were on the phone the other night arguing about it, and asking her if she believes in it, then performing it on her. But remember, shes got a job to do, even if the place is small and doesnt have alot of customers, i dont wanna get interrupted in the middle of a routine by some civilian trying to make a purchase. I step aside and then its kind of awkward to engage back into the conversation. I mean, im not there to impress her or anything, and im a busy, high status male, so why the hell would i wanna sit around all day and chat with this girl like some lost puppy dog who just found a nice new leg to hump. I want to be smooth, but slow, and emotional, (funny is what im aiming for) and then be gone until our next encounter. But first, ofcourse, i really should ask her about the job like i said i was going to, (perfect way to segue way into a routine, or anything else interesting to talk to her about or show her) Sooooo, anything in particular you guys might do in my situation? Thanks.

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Couldn't you have just asked her out?
You seem to be..
Who wants a job in a coffee shop?

I forgot to mention that i need work hahahha im saving up for college. You dont recommend trying to get a job working with this chick though? I mean she seems like gf material if ya know what i mean. I want that

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This is very AFC

You are friend zoning yourself by showing interest in a job rather than her.

Maybe, but idk. It would be foolish to go in there and just hit on her like shes a hot piece of meat. I figured if i got the job, not only could we possibly work together, and have the opportunity to flirt and gradually build attraction, but id also be making money, which is always a sweet deal. Idk, if my approach to the situation is so AFC, then what would you have done differently. I asked for criticism AND advice. Not just judgement...

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Remove 'foolish' insert 'awesome'

A nice thing to do when picking up a girls digits when she is at work is to just buy something, then mostlikely she'll ask you if you want the receipt. At this point you could say "That depends, will your number be on it?"

This works great for a first impression, but now that you've been hanging around for some time you lost momentum.

Look all i know is that if i sit around just waiting, nothing will happen. Soooo im gonna go in there in like a half hour and even if i crash and burn, idgaf. As long as i try, to me, right now, thats all that matters. You miss 100% of the shots you never take. The worst thing that happens is i get rejected, and thats no big fucking deal. There are PLENTY of hot, sexy, admirable women left on planet earth. Im actually kind of hoping for rejection. It builds character, and, quite frankly, i dont think ive been rejected enough in my life. Soooooooo im gonna go for it, and if youre still interested, ill tell you how it went.

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how did it go?

Thank you for asking philosopher. At the end of today it appears as if i am at a stand-still. I shouldve checked before but when i went over there they had already been closed. On weekends they close at 5 Pm, and i did not know this. Every other day they close at 7 Pm, and i figured to day was no exception. But tomorrow, for sure, i will be in there around 4:30. Just because its a half hour before closing time and i believe its the best time because the odds are in my favor that almost nobody will be in there to interrupt. Right across the street is this great chinese joint. Im guessing that shes lived here for awhile now, and has probably dined there, but im going to go with my plan anyway. Im going to go in, hand her the application, then say that i really need to split, because i have to meet my friends in an hour or so over there. Ill ask her if shes ever eaten there before. Ill make a couple jokes about how they make the best feline low mein or something else that has to do with cats. You know how it is with the chinese and their unorthodox eating delicacies.... If she doesnt have a sense of humor, and doesnt laugh, then she isnt the kind of girl id even wanna be with in the first place. Then, in closing, whether shes been there before or not, ill say ""i love it there, its a great place. Some night after you close, you should join me for some tea, and maybe some cat, or dog, or whatever the hell theyre serving . Im sure it would be fun."" And thats it. I either get a yes, and grab her digits, or i get a no and get rejected. Either way, one thing for certain is guaranteed. Closure. And to me, with life being so short and fast, thats very important. But thank you once again. I will certainly let you know what happens tomorrow, and if you have any advice you feel like sharing, by all means, go right ahead, as id greatly appreciate it.

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What you should have done is asked her if she is always this energetic, and that would spark some small talk. Then every time you go in there you would be able to talk to her, and even ask her out.

What you should have done is asked her if she is always this energetic, and that would spark some small talk. Then every time you go in there you would be able to talk to her, and even ask her out.

do you even want this job, because if not you are totally setting yourself up, what you should do is just go ''hit on her like she is a hot piece of meat'', have you ever made a friend before?, if you have you have already built attraction with someone, don't focus on this ''building attraction'' is the social equivilent to getting someone to like you, just hit on her and be cool and calm and confident, people like people that like them, as long as you don't come off as a stalker or a super desperate loser, then you are fucking good to go

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jeItXgcBOI[/youtube]

saw this a while back, this could be of use to you,

but honestly you should just come clean and say, listen, I know this sounds silly but I don't even want a job here, I just thought you were really cute and was too shy to talk to you, have a conversation, if she isn't trying to get away from you or end it, then get her number, hit her up, and go on a date sooner rather then later and try to sleep with her (instead of texting for weeks and weeks without making anything happen), all you can do is go for it, it is a yes or a no, friendzoning yourself and taking a job you don't want for an uninterested girl will be more of a waste of time then just actually asking her out

GOOD LUCK

I just saw your reply right now, Pumpington. That was great. Thanks dude. I hope to see some of your comments on some of my posts in the future. It's good to have a buddy that can just be straight up honest with ya. You were right. In the end, I should've just cut the bullshit and flat out asked her for the number. Btw, that video was pretty oool. Not only was the moral of tale a good, but it made me laugh.

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