| Hi man,
Just a few personal thoughts bellow (of course i can be wrong, it's just my opinion without knowing you and her, ok?):
>>Ive worked with her for about a month, but ive only seen her at work like 4 times or so. I met her just by making small >>talk and making her laugh a lot. She always laughs at my jokes, even though they arent funny a lot of the times, and im >>always teasing her.
Making her always laught does not mean necessarily that it's a good thing. I have examples of male friends that are very funny indeed, make girls laught but most of the times they are seen as goofy, i mean, as motivators to negative emotions
they might have sometimes. We all must balance that humoristic side with serious ones...
>>She seems to talk to me a lot more when she breaks up with her ex, which i dont pay much attention to. most of the time >>she'll complain about how hes being like a girl, which ill respond "too bad you only date bitches", and i make sure i smile >>when i say that.
Carefull my friend: "(...)to talk to me a lot more(...)" ?
You don't wanna be her girlfriend with a penis. If you listen a lot about her stories with her ex you are becoming close to the
friendship zone. You must not fall into her frame, i mean, you listen one or two sentences and then change the
subject and take her to your frame, be the leader in the conversation...
>>other than that i keep our texts/phone calls really short. I dont know whether to consider her a flake, since i did let her >>know about my plans on very short notice. I typically allow a girl to have 3 strikes in terms of flaking.
Ok.
I have already posted in other sections that, personally, i don't wanna be with girls that recently broke up. But that's my thing and of course they are several examples of guys that did fine!
I did that one time but i failed because she was still thinking about him and i was used as an emotional supporter. Well, to be honest, i kinda used her too because i was also out from a long relationship. We were a little down and needy and we joined in that (bad) context.
If i was you i would stay away for a while just to ckeck is she reestablishs contact. And if she doest that try not to jump immediatly into her. Give space, take
time and act as an alpha guy.
[quote=""J""]Ive worked with her for about a month, but ive only seen her at work like 4 times or so. I met her just by making small talk and making her laugh a lot. She always laughs at my jokes, even though they arent funny a lot of the times, and im always teasing her.
She seems to talk to me a lot more when she breaks up with her ex, which i dont pay much attention to. most of the time she'll complain about how hes being like a girl, which ill respond "too bad you only date bitches", and i make sure i smile when i say that.
other than that i keep our texts/phone calls really short. I dont know whether to consider her a flake, since i did let her know about my plans on very short notice. I typically allow a girl to have 3 strikes in terms of flaking.[/quote]
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