Okay.... sorry for the length. I met this girl at Uni: 9, friendly, smart. I talked to her a lot, too friendly for my own good (should've worked harder on the attraction phase in person), and invited her out casually once with rejection. I played it cold for a couple of classes and she came to me to re-initiate whatever the hell it is we have, so I took it as a good sign. Only a six week semester, so I closed with a facebook link. She has a boyfriend (she's never mentioned him; gathered from facebook stat). She's out of state for a few more weeks. We've talked several times, and I finally feel like I've made minor progress from casual conversation to some form of attraction. She knows my intentions. Or she's an idiot.

No oneitis or any of that bullshit here, just looking for continuance advice. Part of the problem I've run into is that she's a hell of a lot smarter than what I normally deal with and doesn't seem to respond to 'game' lines. Example: I messaged her once referring to her as "trouble" and she never responded. I dropped the line for a few days and everything started back up fine. Recently, I flipped roles, arguing that she was "too good for her own good" and she responded "hardly, It's just a face." My efforts to plug things to do together have been ignored. She carefully responds without agreeing or declining and continues the conversation. My gut tells me that she's partially interested and struggling with something else (boyfriend is likely).

I think it's a rule-breaker to break down walls and effectively say: We need to do something when you get back if we're going to be real friends... I have lots of ideas but I'm hoping for someone to speak up with [similar] experience.

Well, I found a solution. I rolled with some MM basics and then plugged the revealing questions game in the middle and it solved the whole problem. Now I'm just hoping she doesn't catch buyer's remorse based on the boyfriend-guilt thing before she flies back in so I can actually close. She already basically agreed to it. I definitely recommend this version to anybody whose stuck and is just ready for an all-in: revealing questions.

Okay, this is becoming me just talking to myself, but I'm concerned that the guilt issue will be too much before she gets back... Any suggestions or links on how to deal with that? I was so proud of how I handled it, creating all that sexual tension, and now she's struggling with this long-term boyfriend issue.

Also would like to know how to deal with a buyers-remorse, guilt thing. Met a chick last week at a party (has a very wobbly relationship), did a bit of the facebook stuff, and now looking forward to maybe something again this weekend. But A.) I'm worried she will now Shit Test the Fuck out of me all night (and I am shaky on Frame Control), and B.) the motive of this shit test might be she has buyers remorse from the whole week thinking everything over.