| There's a lot in this statement, more than vcwriter suggested.
What just happened was mega points for you, dude. Her friend just called you both out on the situation - it looks like you guys are going to"date". That's normally a fucking embarrassing thing to say. She wouldn't have said that in front of her friend, while she was on the phone to you, so that you could both hear it, unless she knew her friend was already thinking about seeing you again, a lot more. So yes they've talked, and her friend is making light of what is already a good situation, and in a way, letting you know she wants this for her friend - to meet a cool guy. She's also saying she wants to meet you. Super points. In a joking way, she's letting you know you're being welcomed into their little friend circle. And yes, so that she can suss you out. But it's more a formality. As long as you're still being the guy that got this girl interested, things will go well. People want something that looks like a good thing, to actually be a good thing. You're already in a positive light.
And the fact that they both laughed when her friend said that is good. She was comfortable enough about that joke that she didn't even protest. She just laughed and let it slide.
Don't take what she said as something super positive or negative as to what's about to happen. She's just calling it out on what it currently looks like. As long as you keep moving forward with what you were doing, independent of what this girl said, you'll be fine. A good idea would be to call out her friend on what she said, eg. "She's a live one... I'm watching her." "Is she usually trouble?? Geez..." etc. that kind of thing. It's likely the kind of statement that needs diffusing, to break the tension (the implication that you want to "go out with her"), or a good bit of material to make a joke about. I imagine, from what you said (and this may differ from reality) that now that that phone conversation is over, the next meet up will be with her and her friends, and you can bring up as a funny story "...we were talking on the phone, and her friend says YOU CAN'T GO OUT WITH HER TILL YOU MEET ME! Geez!" but of course you should do whatever feels natural to you. But when you call her out on it, you should neither confirm or deny her statement, it keeps things interesting and it's probably too early days for that kind of talk.
And even if you were being pressed for this information, eg. "sooo, are you going to go out with her?" You'd still diffuse it, bring the attention to the statement itself "Wow, what is this, Larry King?" or "You're really keen to know! Why?", maybe she answers some boyfriends in the past have been trouble, and then you can use that as a conversation topic - what was that guy like, what he should/shouldn't have done, what a guy should do, some funny stories of bad boyfriends you've heard, etc. still without answering that question. It's more important that you show confidence in your response, rather than answering directly. Your confidence is the answer they're looking for. Of course you have to always practice being truly confident and not hiding behind an act of bravado, which never works. If you're calm and just doing what you were already doing, you'll be fine.
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