ok so i know this girl for almost ever and i see her every now and then, and when we see each other, we hang out, we flirt, and we dance (like she rubs her ass against my dick), we drink etc. but i don't know how to go past that point. another problem is, one day she'll be interested, she'll want to be outgoing, and will ask me if i want to go to a party with her etc. then couple days later she'll seem very uninterested not willing to go out, not wanting to party or drink or go to a club. i said i see this girl every know and then so i'm guessing i can use this to my advantage because when i see her she gets so happy and she hugs me and kiss on the cheek, you know, like the shit best friends do. some advice would help thanks.

p.s i don't know if this was the appropriate forum, but meh. and also, i'm NOT trying to get into a relationship with this girl, just hit-n-quit. or maybe friends with benefits.

Well, on a day she is seeming interested try to escalate. See what happens. No one can know whats going on inside hear head, so find out

You are in danger of becoming what's known in the game as an "orbiter". A guy that hangs around a woman/women hoping it is going to go further when she just has him around so she can use him and validate herself. Rubbing her arse against your cock is actually one of the least intimate things she can do (think about lap dancers), hand kino and kissing are next two up the ladder. She’s just doing this to tease you. The oscillating moods and interest you get from her is just a (sub-conscious) push and pull. Girls are hard wired to do it much better than us guys. If you are afraid of losing her through escalating then she has you in her spider web. If you just go for and it fails then at least you now know where you stand and can move on.

Don’t be afraid of losing her. Have an abundance mindset and move on if it doesn’t work out. The reward for taking this risk is you move things on sexually. Although by the sound of it this window may have closed.

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Leo has it bang on bro, you're an orbiter. Best thing to do if you still want her is to grab a pivot and see if you can make her upset she's lost the validation.

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thx for the advise leo. will do