This is my first post here, but I've been reading for a long time. I'll probably post more on here as things progress, but I recently ended a long term relationship and have been getting my game back in order, starting out kinda slowly but currently have multiple operations going down with about 5 or 6 girls, 2 or 3 which have seriously caught my attention.

My question is this.

I went out with a HB — I'd say an 8 but who cares. We hit it off very well, and are very much attracted to each other. She is fairly proper, and not looking to jump into bed unless she is serious about someone — so I basically think I could crack the case if I have a couple months to put into her (not exclusively, I am not looking for that right now — but she seems like a girl I could get to know and who has potential to really ring my bell more than she already has LOL).

We met online, I did a great txt game on her, which is where I excel — we met in person, and even though she dragged me to the area of town where she lives and wanted to be in control the whole date, I didn't let her dominate me. We had a great time, making out a little bit, being playful, flirty, listening to her tell me about how much she loves sex, all the things she wants to do to me if I turn out to be a respectable guy etc etc. fine.

It was a blast regardless of not getting any.

So, a couple days later we are texting too frequently and she asks me about work (uh oh) and I go into a little bit of a long winded text about how much my job sucks and vented at her for a minute.

All of a sudden she goes cold, starts sending one line replies, no questions, no banter, just simple answers — then she calls me NEEDY and tells me I am too negative — which kind of shocked me because I mean… She doesn't know me for shit and she was the one who asked me how my job was going when I was pissed off about something.

No I know that was some AFC shit when I actually vented to her about work instead of a friend.

I pulled a fast switch-up, didn't apologize but explained I am just having a day at work and didn't mean to vent it at someone I don't know and then quickly changed the subject to about how good of a kisser she is and got a nice response from that one.

Then, I told her I have to go get some work done and I would call her later.

That night, I sent her a txt saying I had too much going on and was tired and didn't want to talk on the phone — to which she replied that she was going to bed as well. That was my plan anyway, to freeze her out for a minute.

Basically what I have here is I ended up getting into this WAY TOO LONG text messaging frequency too fast with a girl I haven't gotten to know much. I slipped and let some of that go negative when I let her trigger some bitchyness about my job and sent that her way (whoops). She called me needy because I got like that and also because we have been texting each other constantly. It was all flirty and fun right up to that point.

I think there is some level of attraction there from her for sure because people aren't perfect and I think she can see past that one, it wasn't like some of the freakier slip ups I've read people posting here LMFAO.

However, I decided not to text her at all today and MAYBE, send her one later on if I feel like it after yoga class and I don't have to juggle too many girl calls tonight.

Maybe it would be better to freeze her out completely for a couple days and then send her something witty and see if I can't kick start this?


I just kick-started a dead thread the other day simply by using the "Hey honey I am running late, how are the kids?" routine and am probably gonna get an F-close or close to it this weekend.

I am not actually NEEDY as I do have other options right now but still want to pursue this one.

I'd say there's a 50/50 chance I can recover this and regain alpha status with her based on where I sense her thoughts to be right now but could use some advice about how long to freeze her out, what I might say to re-boot the system if you will.



Anyway, I have some good stories and hope to be active here and make some good friends!

Happy Hunting.

UPDATE:

So I made myself much more aloof with this one after essentially thinking I ended up in the friend zone. A few playful text messages over a span of a few days and then I get a random message out of nowhere to the effect of "I don't think I see you as someone I like in a romantic way, at least not yet..."

So confirmed. I wait a few hours and reply with some smart ass remark I don't want to say specifically what it was, but she replied with laughter. Then I went back to being aloof, and eluded to the fact that some other girl started doing the exact same thing to me (constantly sending me negative text messages that turned me off, which was totally true) but I did not exactly SAY I was talking to some other girl... Just a vague reference. All of a sudden she immediately responded to me wanting more information and I replied back that I am way too busy and I will call her in a few days.

So, a few days later I text her, and she calls me that night and seems to have a raised level of interest (so even though I am in the friend zone, the eluding to the fact she is not the only girl out there I am interested in seemed to spike her interest just a little bit).

She spends a good deal of time on the phone complaining about some shit at her job which was what she was bitching me out for in the first place so I called her out on that and told her I only want to talk about fun stuff.

We had a good low-key conversation and then she opened me up on the text messages today. I sent her a couple lines but I am still being aloof with her.

I don't really know what to do in order to get her out for a D2 other than maybe have a gathering of friends at my house and invite her or something lower key than an official date.

Out of all the girls that have my attention right now I am most interested in this one just because we have a good vibe, similar sense of humor, and we just seem to click very well in my opinion.

Having other options is a good thing to keep from acting needy...

However, now that I am backed into the friend zone, do I send out a Hail Mary pass and see what happens (don't even know what it would be) or just accept the fact I am probably gonna get sacked in the friend zone and lose 2 points LMFAO...