| you can do either or
if you isolate to test compliance the idea is simple, if she won't be alone with you in a bar, she won't come to your house and be alone with you
if she won't let you touch her in a bar, she won't let you touch her outside the bar
etc. etc.
it just depends on how you are screening girls, different guys want different things from women, and if you want one night stands then you should start being more congruent with a frame that reflects this
compliance testing is just a tool to test and build compliance, if a girl won't come home, she won't come home, if she will come home, she will come home, pretty simple, if you want to call it what ever or take her on a mini date first fairly irrelevant unless you think she is not comfortable with you, or you want to get to know her better, compliance testing should tell you most of what you need to know
the comfort building, asd work, and forming a connection is good for if you have to bridge and for lowering resistance and raising compliance, how ever if she tests compliant and you think you can get good logistics for sex at that moment, then you are better off proposing your logistics to her and just working with what you got
if it seems there is a stall for you, just notice, positive vibe, move forward, negative vibe, take a step away
if you and your buddy open some girls, they ask you to stick around and start seeking rapport with you, get close to the chick you like, and kiss her, or if you are nervous, ask her if she would like to kiss you, asking her home is just a few words away from that, just have some fun, kiss, have some more fun, make some sort of arbitrary excuse for why you guys are going home and invite the girls with you (''you know it's kind of boring here, my buddy and I are heading home for some more drinks, you two can come along if you want''), if all the happens is no thx, then don't sweat it, get there number, keep hanging with them, talk about shit you will do in the future with them, play up the invite home some more without putting pressure on them at all (basically just sell how fun it will be without actually trying to convince them to go, just sort of randomly expressing the experience and how cool it is at your house or what ever do what ever you got to do, tell them about your roomates new dog, or the amazing spice rack your buddy made at your house by punching a hole in the wall, or tell them about your amazing HD tv with 400 channels your roomate just got, omg but how can you not be excited for 400 hd channels??!!), then try again, if you strike out again, just follow up on the number and make sure you get to know that chick good enough that the next day you can actually remember details about her besides how she looked and how nice her titties felt, if you can't recall anything about her, then it can be assumed she cares about who you are just about as much as you cared the night before, you at this point are just a fun night at the club for her and she can't put a face to you, so make sure if you are following up that you actually got to know her before you left with a number, or the number will most likely be as good as toilette paper, even if a chick feels like you were really hot, if she doesn't know anything about you and you are just ''random club guy'' then it will not be as enticing for her to meet up with you
as for how do you lead?, pro-activity, offer value, the leader goes first and brings the value, the rest follow, you leave your group to go get a drink, ''lets go get a drink'' then you go get a drink, if there is value behind getting a drink to them, they will follow, you open a new topic about what you want to talk about, they find value in your topic and fall into the frame and follow your thread, you want to kiss a chick, just do it, if she finds value in it, she will follow and make out with you, etc. etc., you continuously keep yourself entertained by bringing value to an interaction and making it better, leading yourself to have a better time, put yourself in a better mood, value is subjective, so as long as you value your own leadership and can make your time spent out having fun valuable for yourself, others will find value in your time as well and will fall into your frame, the more your are sure of what you want and can lead yourself to it, the more others will be led to that same destination that you seek, and since it is easier to follow for most, the majority will just fall in line as long as they perceive there is value to bask in
monkey see, monkey do, leader goes first, followers follow
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