Hello everyone,

I have K-closed a girl. The next day I text her. She replies one day later without asking anything. (Her reply is shorter than my text. She replies joking and with a smiley). The same day she replied, before she replied, I added her on FB. She adds me on FB later the same day.

The same day, I go to FB and she is online, I send a message and some minutes later she goes offline.

I feel that if I don't do something, she won't care. Therefore I must do something to try to reach her.
1) Would you advise something?

It was fairly easy to K-close her, I did really well talking to her. I could see it in her eyes from the beginning that she would kiss me the same night. It was a big university party, she had some gfs with her and she might have been a tiny bit drunk. At one point she stayed talking to me even though the friends wanted to go to a different floor. After a while she asked me to join them. We danced and I K-closed.

2) Now, what bugs me is, while after such great success, the girl doesn't even make an effort towards getting in touch with me? Why is that? We had such a great time.

We spend about 30 minutes or less together. Dancing and kissing. She was very smiley and happy. And then I told her I would had to leave because my friend was bored. Then I said it was nice meeting her and that I had to go. And I asked "how we could get in touch?". I then asked for her # and she said "of course!". But she did not ask for mine either. That small detail also bugs me, I believe that if I didn't ask she would not give me her phone number or ask for mine. It is so weird to me...
3) Do you guys know what is going on?

Thanks a lot guys, It is very nice to have somewhere where we can ask for help.

Small detail we do not leave in the same city, she is about 2 hours from my place. And I would give her about 6/10. But since she is so fun, I would rather have her then many 8s or 9s.

Could some1 please help me, if not with all questions, at least with one of them.

Thanks!

1) Chill for a few days, get your head back in the right place. Leave her on your FB , put up a high value status (look up FB status on here)

2) She does not "feel" she needs to make any effort, she already has other options ( I don't know how hot she is but that's the impression you give) in a couple days just message her something like "hey babes how's my new best FB friend?" just ONE message! see what happens.

3) Again she has options. YOU have options as well, follow those while your chilling!

Hope this helps

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Hello guys,

before I could even do what Heywood proposed, I just found out today that she deleted me from her FB list.

1) do you guys know why?
2) some of you will probably advise not to do anything, but since giving it a try costs nothing, what do you guys think? I have her phone number.

Well...you showed way too much interest, texting, adding her on facebook, sending messages on facebook...all that after kissing on a party.

I don't mean to sound like an ass or anything. Kiss-closing is great! but...it's just kissing...if immediately after kissing you shower her with interest, thats a major turn-off.

Your chances are very slim at this point, however, not ALL is lost!
don't do anything about her specifically though, don't message her with an "hey why dyou delete me from facebook" You really shouldnt care, its just a website. You shouldnt care about her not texting either, plenty of other people to text.

There is something you CAN do, and that is triggering womens most powerful attraction switch, social value and pre-selection by other women. In other words, next time she sees you, you should be surrounded by other people, preferably chicks. She'll be all "zomg what did I do...I rejected this guy...but he is hot as hell"

You didn't say how you met her, I'm assuming it's at that university party, which makes me think she'll be at more university parties. If she is in your class, well its time for you to befriend the group of hot chicks all the guys look at.

Of course the easiest and obvious thing to do would be to be proud of your kiss-close, to learn from your mistakes, and to move on.

good luck


edit: You said you texted her the next day and she responded a day later.
Let me tell you a little story...
I went on a few dates with this chick, nothing much came from it, she became a buddy. A while later I go on a date with a different chick, I kiss-close her that same night, go home and have a good night sleep.
The next day I ask my buddy-chick "so when do you think is a good time to text her". Without hesitation she tells me "wait 2 days, if thats too much for you, wait at least one day, just dont send a text today". That confused me, I didn't understand why, so I asked her "why is that? I don't get". She says to me "I don't really know, that's just the way it is, it turns women off when guys are all needy and super-available".

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

It's just the way it works! WOMEN HATE NEEDY! ....I cut my text convo short last night with HB9 (had not text her for a few days prior) She text me at work 1st thing this am, to quote HER; "I could not stop thinking about you last night, while I laid in bed" I said "hope I wasn't to rough on you" She said "only for another 15 minutes...lol blush"... Moral of the story, ALWAYS leave her wanting more!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

EXACTLY MAN, it's Mystery's famous cat string theory. Wiggle a piece of string in front of a cat, just out of reach and it goes berserk. But the second you give it the piece of string, she is bored with it. Women are the same way...You got to be the piece of string that's just out of reach

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You are right guys. I should never have added on FB. Only a SMS and only 2 days later.

And another thing, I should have established more rapport the day I K-closed. Because I didn't there was probably some buyer's remorse going on.

It is a pity, because she was very very fun...

Lesson learned, each time!

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Day 1 - Party ends at 4 am. I send SMS at 18h00.
Day 2 - She answers SMS at ~13h00. I add her on FB at ~14h00. She accepts me ~15h00. About 1 hour later I see her online and send her FB message: "Hi Jessica".
Day 5 - I send her another SMS. She never answered and probably never will.
I thought she liked me. And that would be reason enough for her to want to see me again. But maybe I should tell you what happened exactly. Here we go.

1-It was after the 2 girls I was talking to had to leave the party. We were talking for about 20 minutes, and we got their FB and #.
2-She accidentally bumps into me. I pretend I'm hurt. She says sorry. I say I was just kidding.
3-Convo (Jessica and I)
4-Friends come tell to follow them to another floor. I talk to them and we are introduced.
5-I ask Jessica where she is going and that I can meet her there later.
6-She tells me where. Then her friends come again to take her there. Jessica says "why don't you come with us now?". My wing and I go with them.
7-Convo (Jessica and I while we are walking)
8-Once we arrive we form a circle and start dancing. And I keep talking to her.
9-She starts dancing with me and we leave the circle. We start grinding.
10-I talk to her about her eyes, her lips, I brush her hair out of her face and kiss her.
11-Now there is + or - 10 minutes of dancing, kissing and talking a bit.
12-Her best friend arrives at the party, they hug, I ask Jessica to introduce her friend.
13-We continue dancing, kissing, a bit talking +or- 10 min.
14-My wing looks bored. Jessica joins her circle of friends dancing. I talk to my wing, he wants to leave.
15-I tell Jessica my friend is bored and I will go with him to another floor. She understands and tells me to go. (here I find it a bit weird that she doesn't try to ask me to stay longer...)
16-I ask her how we could stay in touch. Here I can't remember exactly whether I asked for the phone # or she is the one who proposed it. Anyways, I get her # and FB. (Here I find it strange yet again, the fact that she is not the one that asks for my #when I announce I am leaving to another floor with my friend.)
17-I kiss her a last time and leave.

If it matters to you guys. She is 20 (I saw her FB) whereas I'm 26 (But she doesn't know my age, people say I look 23 or 24).

Another thing, I did not tell you what we talked about in our conversations, basically it was: where she lives, where she is from, where she studies, what her friends study, the language she/I speak. Where I am from. There were also some jokes. And some flirting. I honestly can't remember the rest.

I believe the whole thing lasted about 30-40 minutes. She might have being a bit drunk and me just a bit.