I have class with this girl. Long story short, we were supposed to meet up on Thursday. I texted her that day and asked where she wanted to meet up. She said she would let me know when she gets to X-location in a few hours. I replied with an inside joke. She replied back and I never heard from her again.

So that was 3 days ago. Not sure how to deal with this no-excuse-given-flake. I was thinking of just not texting her at all unless she texts me and find out what happened when I see her in person. Or maybe just play it off casual somehow haha.

First mistake: asking her where she wanted to meet up. Never give a woman an opportunity to flake out. You need to be on top of the ball the entire time, always 2 steps ahead of her.

I wouldn't get too hard on yourself. Some women are just erratic, they act like they like you at first, and then they change their mind. It doesn't have too much to do with you. I would just keep showing up, gaming women, and enjoy yourself.

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I agree with the above post, wait for her to contact you, don't mention the flake, if she brings it up, make a joke out of it, and act like you forgot about it.

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Smoke It is correct. I had a HB8 stand me up tonight. She was a hired gun (bartender) that I picked up on tuesday. My plan is to approach her again (probably in the next two days or so) and say, "I apologize that I couldn't make it on Friday night, my friend called me and asked for some help. He is actually the reason I'm still alive today so I couldn't turn him away in his time of need. I'm free on Tuesday night so I'll see you at XXX_Location (original meeting spot).

No matter what, the ball is always in my court. Even if she intentionally missed our date it still makes it look like I was the one that bailed and had a good (DHV) reason to.

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really flakes are just a sign of dis-interest, could be a ton of things, but what it clearly shows you, is a lack of compliance, and that is a waste of your time,

people have lives outside of meeting strangers, and going on dates with them, but realistically it only goes so far, a girl that flakes on you is no big deal, women are just naturally flakey (especially young ones), but after a pattern has been established, it is clear that they don't actually have something comming up, and they are not actually sorry, they are simply dodging you on purpose because they are not interested, but don't want to make you ''feel bad'', because they like your attention, and you probably came off positively, either that or you might be lacking an emotional connection with her (she doesn't feel comfortable meeting you, because she doesn't feel like she even knows you, or has a connection to you at all)


focusing making a connection/gaining investment, will help with reducing flakes, as well as getting a girl to qualify that they won't flake out (but realistically you can't get rid of them, just mitigate them as best that you can)

you:you down for blah blah saturday?
her:yes
you:cool you won't forget will you, or have some silly excuse to not come will you?

(if she seems wishy washy like she might flake, then just retract the invite, cause she will flake, if she asks why, don't seem butthurt or anything, just say something like, nah it's cool, no point in asking you out if you don't want to come, that way if she changes her mind and qualifies to you that she will be there, then flakes out it will be more of a fuck up on her part, puts more tension on her to show up, remove every excuse you possibly can from her, and give her no reason why she could possibly not show up, if she won't qualify to this, then don't give her the chance, just move on and let her come to you when she is more interested in investing)


but even more then trying to reduce flakes, I say embrace them, just get more numbers and stop trying to get something from flakey time wasters, they are not worth it and you don't need them, you can just go out and meet new girls, instead of being needy and falling back on old options that are not interested, not only that but a girl in person has far more potential, then a girl behind a phone