Around 10 weeks ago a girl told me she didn't want to see me anymore. Because I had made out with two of her friends at new years eve (when we had just started dating) combined with some other shit I pulled. She simply sees me as a scumbag player. I´ve slept with two of her friends and all of her friends hate me.

Problem is I like her and can't stop thinking about her. I've dated (2 fuck budies, 4 more kiss close and one actually very good cute AFC date) other chicks since but that hasn't helped.

I'm writing in desperation.

Advice?

-Sweden

Lol you are a scumbag player. Move on and work on your ethics.

Well, no. I wrote it like that so you could see her perspective. We still talked after new years. I went to a party at her place. She went to a party at my friends place (my invitation).

The basic problem was that in the end she concluded I wasn't trustworthy. Slip N Slide I'm sure you have some more experience than me so can't you share some experience on how to show that you're one of the good guys?

All help appreciated

You legitimately act like a good guy. That means that if you're going to hook up with one of her friends, you better be completely done with her first. You hooked up with two of her friends, and you didn't want to be completely done with her.

Move on, man. Your actions are incongruent with the image you want. Figure out your ethics. Just because you CAN hook up with two of her friends at a party, doesn't mean you SHOULD.

I didn't know they were her friends. I had also drinken 10 beers and a fifth of vodka. I had puked once. Furthermore this was only after our second date. I think I would regret moving on and therefore I won't.

However her 18nth birthday is coming up and she'll probably get too much attention to give heed to any of my attempts to get her.

Oh and I'm not a stalker, I just remember her birthday (semi photographic memory).

We've met once since and it was a very confusing meeting. Twas at a 100 persons house party at a mutual friend. We interacted three times. Each meeting was just a about three second stare in each other eyes. First meeting, I said hi she said hi. No feelings shown in either ones face. Second meeting she said Oh hi there. I barely responded keeping a sad face. Third meeting I yelled (loud music) bye to her best guy friend and also said good bye to her. She just stared at me for like 10 seconds until I turned my back and left. This was actually pretty early.

What probably didn't help me was that I befriended her best guy friend. This guy knew my reputation and had been asking me about one of his friends that I've hooked up with. In case she asked him about me, I would definitely have my "player-stamp" confirmed.

Regarding the ethics issue, I have revised my stand on hooking up randoms while dating a girl I like. I wont do that again.

I think you will regret not moving on.

Good luck.