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Guys!
I have ADD and because of it I have difficulties because I have no idea what to talk about with a HBon date, like we just sit there and stare at each other and she's not saying anything.
So I was trying to come up with a script of fun things to talk about to fill the time before the end of the date (which I consider the meat and potatoes of the date).
Help me put more stuff on here so I can just keep it opened up on my phone as the date progresses so I don't forget anything.
1. Talk about how she looks cute in person 1 minute
2. Talk about where you shop 1 minute
2. Talk about how much better she is than your last date 1 minute
3. Talk about how was her travel to the place of date 1 minute
4. Lie her that you attended some party to increase your DHV 1 minute
5. Make up a story about some crazy friend of yours 1 minute
6. Ask about her friends and the place she likes to hang out 1 minute
7. Ask her about her to show you her favourite dance 1 minute
8. Talk about food at the place you're taking her 1 minute
9. Ask if she cooks her fav food etc. 2 minutes
10. Tell her you want her to cook you some food 1 minute
11.Talk about where she lives, her job etc. 3 minutes
12.Ask her if she ever got hazed in sorrority 2 minutes
14 Tell her some fake story about you being in a fraternity 1 minute
15.Talk about her family 1 minute
16.Talk about vacations (listen her blabbering how she wants to go to europe) 3 minutes.
17. Lie you visited europe 1 minute
18. Lie you will take her to europe 1 minute
19. Tell her how to visualize how great it will be to visit some spa (to put her in NLP trance) 1 minute
20.Talk about polictics 2 min
21.Talk about her plans for the future 3 mins
22. Do the cube technique 5 mins
23. Palm reading: 2 mins
24. Ask what is she doing next week 1 min
25. Ask if she want to go bowling next week 1 min
26. Talk about movies/video games 1 min
Ok so I have enough stuff to talk about for 40 mins, can you recommend some routines to fill up the remaining 1hr 20 mins to at least kill 2 hours ?
Wow, first of all, never follow a script. This is ridiculous. Even if you plan ahead and manage to remember the script, it will never go the way you planned it. A conversation doesn't work like that. You need to listen to her, she's giving you information to work with, and you either comment on it (relate, critique, whatever) or ask interesting questions about it. This goes on back and forth between the two of you. You are not interrogating her.
It's good to have some routines and topics stacked so you can pull something when the conversation gets stuck, but those should be actual routines and not random questions. Usually the only things I stack are 2-3 DHV stories (interesting/funny ones) a game or two, and maybe some cold reading routine like The Cube. But seriously 99% of what you say isn't scripted.
Also, there are a lot of things here that I wouldn't recommend discussing on the first date. Most of it is just small talk, some are lies that you cannot possibly get away with (traveling to Europe, really?) and some is just straight up creepy.
I don't want to discuss any specific lines, but seriously you just need to CHILL. Chances are after this date is over you'll laugh at yourself for trying so hard to script everything. Just relax, if she's meeting you she's already interested and invested. Just flow with it and focus on having a good time.