It was either this section or general questions, if you want me to repost just let me know.

This girl is the double forbidden fruit.

She is a coworker, and so is her bf.
I've never gamed a coworker before, but i do have somthing about me that attracts girls with bfs to me. It's a blesssing and a curse at the same time.

The only response I don't care for is, "dude move on, its not worth it"
or "if she leaves him for you, she'll leave you for the next guy" those aren't what i'm asking.

her looks: 8
personality: 12

Me and coworker have been working together for about three months. Even since the beginning i noticed she was always checking me out, and anytime her bf would embarrass she would look over at me (almost in a seeking comfort way) Just recently in the last couple weeks, the flirting has escalated and so has the physical touching. (we work at a gym)

There are times when she compares the two of us toghether, and she even went as far as asking me and my buddy if she should break up with him.

Theres been a lot of back and forth discreet sex\ual tension over the last couple weeks, but at the same time theres been a lot of push/pull involved. Almost like a "i like you, but i dont want to feel to vulnerable and feel like a slut because i have a bf" I'm not sure if her bf is extremely controlling or extremely insecure, but he shows up randomly towards the end of her shift and just watches us, so it makes asking her out after our shift ends a no go. Last saturday we had a little frusterated argument almost as if we were already a couple it was weird but by the end of the night we were laughing and talking again.

She gets jealous when I flirt with other girls, but also told me she doesn't trust me the other day. I wasn't sure how to take that but didn't ask her what she meant when I feel I should have, and now I found out I'm transferring to a new gym this wednsday and she will only be working two shifts a month which makes the coworker/bf-coworker problem disappear.

My question. Do I just put everything on the table and actually talk to her about everything thats going on and stop playing these back and forth games, or continue with this back and forth tension bullshit that doesnt seem to be going anywhere. The ONLY reason i'm hesitant about talking to her is what if theres a 0.01% chance i'm wrong and she's not into me and then i look like an idiot. But with all the tension and clues and flirting, theres no way she doesnt want my dick deep in her pussy.

thank you for any feedback.
the funny thing is, i do ok for myself with women, but this chicks got me feeling like a chode at times.

I don't know what to say, man... She's got you wrapped around your finger.

She's getting as much attention as she wants from you. If you were to stop giving it to her, she'd get it from her boyfriend. If her boyfriend's a good dude, there's probably too much emotional connection there for her to rationalize screwing it up. She loves to think about it though.

Seems like your only chance is to pursue other women, forget about this one, then as soon as you get an opportunity, kiss her.

The opportunity won't come easily, since you're switching jobs. You'll have to go out to a bar or something with her.

Can't really see this one working out, bro.

Yep, sounds about right I guess.
Are you suggesting I don't even talk to her about it though?
Last time I was in a back and forth situation like this with a girl, we talked it out and I ended up fucking her the next day. haha

If that's a true story, then maybe you should. I don't tell people my feelings, I show them physically. But hey, if you've found success with talking it out, do what works for you.

true story, granted, the variables were different. she didnt have a bf and we had already fooled around a little. i'm just gonna need to do something similar to a blow me blow me out and see how she responds.