Greetings,


I'm 21 and I used to be the casual guy hanging around in the club, hoping for a girl to approach me, and as You probably guessed, it never worked out.

So I started searching for answers and came across this forum, I started reading books.. Lots of them and I've learned some very awesome elements that are truely key to seduction.

Took all of my knowledge to the field and got extremely good responses, K-closes, number closes, and day 2's.

People really adore me, as I'm a very adventerous, energetic guy and people around here respect guys with great confidence & dedication to their desires.
I've even had my best friends girlfriends personally tell me that I'm cute and stuff but ofcourse I'm not gonna throw my friendships away to test myself.

Started college again and the first 2 hours in, I managed to number close 4 girls, and 3 girls that added me on facebook out of their own initiatives. I'd say their at best 6.5-7/10, not really what I'm searching for.

So there's this one girl in class who'd I give a 8.5, we had a good talk, immense eye-contact and I showed interest and so did she (By looking at me all the time in class).

It's strange but when I'm myself, I draw so much attention and people love me for who I am, but I usually dont care about these girls and just use these situations to test myself and see how far I can get. (nothing personal though)

When I talk to girl that I do like, I tend to freeze up and have this anxiety of failure, even though I never had a girl not accepting me, I just dont wanna end up in the friend-zone with her. She's damn hot and I wanna go for her all the way.

I have absolutely no fear of approaching her, I have a good few lines that I can use and viable information I extracted from our previous conversation.

I live in an energie with poor energie and it's really effected my personality, hardly any jokes are brought up and it's always ''srs bsns'' at home.
My greatest desire right now is change my personality from ''Srs , friendly and w/e'' to a more playful, funny and cocky guy, but I have absolutely no idea how to without girls disregarding me for being ''overly (Insert stuff here).

A good example is like this:

''Wow You're carrying alot of bags, are you breakig a world record''?

I just do not understand how people come up with this ;P.

Well, I'm not sure exactly how to answer your question...but two thoughts come to mind.

1.) If you try to act like something you're not, you won't seem congruent. Chicks are good at sniffing out fakers. If you're not a naturally cocky/funny guy, if you try to run cocky/funny material, it's probably not going to work for you.

2.) Just because you're not cocky/funny now, doesn't mean you couldn't learn to be in the future, though. I'd say to watch movies with Ryan Reynolds, even though he's not that great of an actor, a lot of women like him. Of course, being handsome and rich doesn't hurt his appeal, either.

He nails the cocky/funny thing, though. Try to take a few pointers from him, but don't copy him exactly or you'll look like a douchebag. Just "borrow" a little bit. Hope this helps.

Cocky/funny can be great if you know how to use it. The example you gave was just teasing and making fun of while being funny. Which is all c/f basically is. Use some canned c/f lines for now. Find the ones you like. Eventually it'll become very natural and you won't need them anymore, trust me.

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