Hey guys!
I´m going through a weird situation, what happens is there is a HB I used to hit on about 3 months ago, she was friendly but she never answered back perhaps because she had a boyfriend haha. Well so yesterday she broke up with her bf and she talked to me on facebook telling me that I still owed her a "date" (she didn´t use that word but it was basically it) I said we should go to the movies and she agreed.
Im pretty shure I´m like a rebound to this babe but what should I do? should I play her game or should I play hard to get?
help please!

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Could have played a bit hard to get while being readily available, the reason you don't want to play too hard to get is because she could be talking to other guys being she just broke up with him, but your currently obviously, or hopefully the guy that's at the top of the list because she wants to go on a date with you, so she is definitely interested. I would have said something like
"I suppose I could take you on a date when i'm available, but I am busy busy, what's your schedule look like, I might be able to take you on (Friday, Saturday, Sunday), etc..."

That's a bit hard to get but its lighter, don't drag hard to get out, because she might just say fuck it and move on... Hope this helps.

Yes you´re right man. She told me to go to a theme park when I asked her when she said "I don´t know, you decide" so i told her "well I cant do this weekend but in two weeks would be great" she said it was cool and after that I said "we should go to the movies! I want to see "x" movie" she agreed and Im probably meeting her this week

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Good good, you took control of the situation and you showed you can lead. Now make sure you obviously don't wait 2 weeks to take her out, snatch her while she's fresh or loses interest. So make sure you TELL her a day you are both going out. Hope all goes well.

Man today I saw her and she kept looking and smiling at me after that I went towards her and chat for a while. Everything was fine till then but when I got home I saw her on facebook so I began to talk with her at the end of the convo I told her I actually didnt know her well so I would make her some questions in order to getting to know her so I started asking random questions (I intended it to be a joke) but all she answered was "hahaha weird" after that the convo went like this

Me: hey Im just kidding Im not that weird

HB: haha ok

Me: I bet you were thinking "whats wrong with this guy?"

HB: hahaha actually yes

Me: haha you see, like this girl in my school shes so weird she keeps saying her dogs are very smart and plan when to escape and so

HB: haha thats scary

(2-3 min silence)

ME: Hey Im bored, im trying to make some conversation and you do nothing

HB: Im sorry i was doing some homework. In fact Im leaving already, take care. see you tomorrow.

WTF did I do wrong?

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No offense but im going to evaluate those few messages you posted, and by the looks of it, you seem weak and unable to lead. Never ask he direct questions, especially dull random ones, it will dull out the conversation, in order to keep a fire burning you have to give it something it wants. You also downgraded yourself to her by saying I bet you were thinking "Whats wrong with this guy". That makes you sound insecure and makes you sound like you have a low self-esteem. Don't message her until you see her next, this time I want you to do the jealous girlfriend opener, or something on that order. If you trigger emotions with the girl then she will feel subconsciously closer to you as she is sharing emotions with you. Intrigue her with that and maybe the cube routine. She will then find you more then interesting, and DHV (Demonstrate Higher Value). Then you can ask questions and fluff talk. If she is acts like shes uninterested neg her once, don't overdue it, make it light. Hope it works, keep informed.

Damn youre right! I dont have low self esteem or anything,I guess what happened was that when I realized I screwed it for the first time, instead of going up I kept digging lower. Also what bothers me a lot is that many girls I game act totally different when we´re talking head to head than when we talk on facebook. Take this girl for example, when I see her she´s so nice, teases and shit and then in facebook she´s a bitch....... what the fuck?

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Yea, Facebook can come across like that, whether or not she is trying to be nice or just busy or whatever the case may be, that's why I use Facebook/texting usually as logistics, to get basis information down and dates set etc...

Hey man!
I saw her today we just talked for a while.
I had already asked her out but we hadn´t set a date, she was on facebook a while ago the convo this time was really short

ME: Hi!

HB: HI

ME: Hey, lets go to the movies on thursday

HB: On thursday? why?

ME: Why not

HB: hahaha it was just a question :p

ME: So what, are you coming?

HB: If I finish my training early, yes

ME: normally how late do you finish training on thurdsays? (I think I shouldn´t
have sent that)

HB: I´ve got no idea because my training program just changed

ME: Ok If you have time we go, If you dont It doesn´t matter´

HB: Yes, I´ll let you know

ME: Ok

ME: Im leaving, godd night, kiss

HB: OK take care


Was it smooth? I´ve realized lately that this girl is a little dumb, but I want to go out with her! shes very hot :p . I dont want to marry her, got no "oneitis" or so. I just want if possible some casual sex every now and then

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Oh man, you had it in the beginning, then you lost it with all those needy questions. Let me guess, she never let you know huh? When she said if her training ended early shed go, you should have taken control and told her to cut the bullshit. She fed you a lot of it and you ate it up faster than a fat kid eating cake.

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im a little bit unsure what yo mean by telling her to cut the shit. tbh i was following his convo with her and agree with you to the point where he got a bit needy with the questions but how would you bring this back to your court? im intreigued because im in the same boat as him when it comes to these situations

Right here. Basically what should have been done was him telling her that if she can't find a way to commit, then its better to just forget it. She's using the bullshit card. She needs to know that his time is important and he's not going to get suckered into playing a waiting game because she can't make a decision.



Gaia, I suggest next time when a similar situation arises, instead of asking her if she's coming or not, just tell her when you're going to pick her up. If she starts giving you shit again, then neg the hell out of her for not being well informed about something shes very passionate about (I'm assuming she takes her training seriously).[/quote]

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Pretty little girls, so used to getting your way. Along comes a man who challenges you, and suddenly you don't know what to say.