| Hey folks, I'm new and need advice on what to do next, or if I even should do anything next.
Background: I have incredibly severe AA, and I'm battling a case of one-itis. Last week I decide to tackle my problems head-on. I go to a concert, start chatting up a couple of girls. But I don't even ask them their names. Much less get their numbers. But I went and talked to random strangers, which isn't something I'd've done two weeks ago. Small steps, right?
The Story: The next night I go out drinking and dancing with a couple of friends. After the bars close we get on a bus, and I see a cute girl looking despondent. I can't really tell if she's with a guy or not because she's just staring off into space. I figure I might as well at least say hi.
Me: How's it going? You look like you might the unhappiest girl on the bus tonight.
She starts talking about how a guy a few people away from her has been a douche and his friends he's with have been treating her like shit. People get off at a bus stop and she takes their seats, and ask me to block off the seat next to her. I guess this makes her guy jealous, and he and all of his friends just leave her on the bus.
I offer to walk her to wherever she's going with my two friends who are on the bus, and a couple of minutes later we get off at a bus stop. My two friends immediately take off in the opposite direction, leaving me alone with the girl.
I'm not sure how weird it is a random college-aged guy to offer to walk a random college-aged girl to her car twenty minutes away at 3:00 AM. But I offer, and she accepts.
We walk and we talk, and I ask about how she knows this guy and his friends. She says that they're not in a relationship, but have gone on a couple of dates. They also apparently have issues like this almost every week. I make a comment about how she's at least finding out that the guy is a tool before she's wasted too much time on him.
She apologizes for unloading all of this onto a stranger, tells me how nice of a guy I am for listening and walking her back, etc. She says that she feels so much better since she's getting a chance to vent about everything.
Personally, I'm a little disappointed that this basically turned into a therapy session.
Conversation eventually turns into discussion about college majors and other mundane stuff until we get to where she's parked. She goes and gets her make up bag from someone's house, and comes back to the car mentioning how douche-y the guy's friends are.
She offers to drive me back to my car that's parked a few blocks away. As I'm getting out I figure I should at least ask her....something.
Me: "So, I realize things with guys aren't exactly going perfectly for you right now, but you seem like a pretty nice girl . . . . . . . . .
And then there's an awkward pause because I'm not sure how weird it is to ask the girl for her number. I've never done this before. Engineering students were not made for this sort of behavior.
Her: My last name is xxxxx. Add me on Facebook.
The follow-up??? : Later the next day I sent the friend request, and she accepted the next day. At this point I'm not sure how to go about approaching her.
Part of me is telling myself that I basically told her to figure out what she's doing, and that I'm open if she's interested. At least that's what I'd do in the past.
Should I send her a message saying something along the lines of "Hey, how's it going? I hope your weekend ended up working out better for you than the other night?" Or do ya'll think the therapy session probably has already catapulted me into the friend zone, if there's one that applies to random strangers.
Sorry for the long post; thanks in advance for any tips. I realize that I was still a lot more awkward than I should have been. Going against all of my previous social programming has been tough, but I think it's going to be a very rewarding experience for me.
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