I hadn't even considered the new years eve thing could be read as condescending, and i'm still not sure i see it to the same magnitude you do, but after going back and reading that message i can tell something's not right about it. I apologised to her and reopened communication so i'm gonna be careful for now. To be honest i'm not even sure i want to 'game' this one, she seems like she might make a better friend. Which is good as she's a sports coach too... need to think about it.

Thanks for the continued advice mate.

[quote="Don Draper"][quote="begginerpickupskills"]Posted: Today at 12:16 pm

So what topics can i talk about and im only 18 im good at getting girls just not good at texting game because u cant see there reactions and stuff any ideas of topics and openers?

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Don, how do you recover when a text joke is misinterpreted? I met this chick (HB7) who's just a bit older than me, I'm 21 and in university. She works in real estate so I made the joke that I'd found a sugar mommy, and I made sure to add 'lol's and use emoticons to show that I was not being serious. She reciprocated. It just puzzles me, because she always responds but when I said we should hangout this weekend, she used the whole sugar mommy thing as the reason and said i was being rude. So yeah, I get that I screwed up, but is there anyway to recover from this? The whole while I was using a light hearted, joking tone)

Hey Don, been a long time since your reply (which I thank you for substantially) I did what you recommended, and sweet talked her and whatnot. Though sex did not happen (She said she was a Virgin, i honestly had to ask really throughout our date haha, i mean at this age? strange. But a good catch) We did plan a lunch date, which from there ended with a kiss and then another date on a Sunday. After taking her out, we had a good day with lots of laughs, lots of touching. But at the end of the date when I went in for the 90% she just put her fingers on my lips, smiled and said bye. Now Personally I assume that meant "This date showed me that I lost interest in you" which i was fine with..until the next day when she texted me for talk.

And we talked and whatnot, and it was a lot better than before.
Now: My friends were messing around with me while I was getting my gaming concentration on, they decided to delete her off of the FB, she texted me and said Her: "Why would you delete me ]: " and i said
Me: "awuh, you know I wouldn't delete a girl as cute as you, how bout you hit me up with the add then :]"
Her: haha ill think about it!
me: meanie!
her: [:
me: Lol what does that smiley face even meann
her: it means i have something for us to do this saturday! :]
Me: [:

Its been 5 days since my message, she hasn't replied, hasn't added me on facebook, now that its been 5 days i find it strange to add her again (its like, look im giving in) Secondly, she..hasn't responded. I don't like messaging a girl more than once (not a dignity thing, just a "I dont wanna be clingy" thing..

Hi Don,

wow great advices, you're the man Wink
Hope you can help me out also..

I met this girl at a party and she showed interests in me
I hardly send her text, cause I don't really know what to send, but if I text her, she hardly replies and her replies are kind of 'cold'

If I don't send her any text for like a week she will send me something like "HiiiiiiiHiiii!!^-^" and if i reply, she hardly reply back again


Is there anyway to change this or could it be she's just not interested?
How do I text 'exciting/fun texts' or texts which makes her reply 'normal'?

I'm planning to get a day 2 with her, but if it goes like this, will the best solution to phone her? (if yes, do you have any good examples?)


MrRiceBoy

Cheers Don! advice heeded...! I have been coming up with my own bits that fit my character based on existing material and its working nicely . . . just an fyi the breaking rapport has finally begun to work! the mistake i was making was timing, As soon as Ive K closed, i break rapport... (you cant dance is my favourite now!)

Well, here's a list of common topics that work well with women..

* There are very few topics deeper than music and musicians. Or cars, for that matter.

* Travel. Places you've been to, places she has been to, places you would like to go, places she would like to go. Why those places, why not any other?

* Things happening around the world right now. What might be the intentions behind people doing those things. Or the phenomenon which causes those things to happen.

* Spiritual questions, like "Is there life after death? Do you believe in that? Yes/No and why/why not" and such.

* About themselves, cause that's the favourite topic people want to talk about. Questions like "What is most important to you as a person?" and "What's one thing that you wish you could change in yourself" and why.

Try these out for size.

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Well, there could be a few different ways of dealing with this.. but the intention is to deal with this head-on.

"Hey, come on now, you know I was just kidding that time and I find you very desirable, never mind the age or the money or such shit."

..or something along those lines. Just tell her that age is irrelevant because it doesn't decide who were are attracted to or not. Treat that piece of information like a no issue. When I find an odd reaction to a joke, I get serious and tell them that it was a joke and to not read even the slightest thing into it. That's what works for me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, you didn't have to just put a smile there, you could've asked her what she had in mind. And then, planned accordingly for a meet up. If she's hinting for you to ask, ask. Don't be coy about it.

Also, as long as you can message her, who gives a shit if she's your facebook friend or not?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Good to hear.

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Well, she's just doing the usual push/pull which women tend to do naturally. Or she could just be seeking your attention when she's not getting from her other attention givers.

Instead of normal topics, scroll up the page and see the list of topics mentioned and try to engage her in a deep, interesting conversation. She won't leave it hanging, if there's a good flow about it.

Also, as a rule of thumb, calling is better than texting. Just tell her that you need to talk to her about something and texting just won't cut it. She should agree.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Just a quick question about a text I got off a girl recently...

I text her with a pretty standard opener; we've been flirting/chatting for a month or so and K-closed her a few days back while out. The text was the first since I saw her the other night. Just a bit of background info... She opened her text with "Hey buddyyyy", is this her trying to show disinterest or just being odd. She's quite a strange, playful girl anyway. Don't mistake this for oneitis, just wanting to know what it means when girls use words like "mate", "buddy" and "pal"? Is it always considered a bad thing?

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'Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'

Hey there is this girl I knew for years but we weren't close. However I speak to her bff a lot and asked her a time if her friend was talking to anyone. She said no and I said I wanna speak to her and asked her for her number; but she said she'd let the girl I'm into give me it instead...so on campus I was chilling with my friends and she walked past and called me and put the number in my phone...I called her a few days after this but didn't follow up. So a few wks ago her bff said she has a new blackberry and gave me her pin (I didn't even ask or anything...she jus sent it). So after this we spoke every now and then. I told her friend I'd ask her out but didn't immediately and one time she said I keep on saying that but don't do anything...so I asked her out eventually and we went to the cinema last week. Now she paid for both of us...catching me off guard...but I bought the food so I guess it was split even...in the cinema I didn't make any physical contact or even try to. I then walked her to her bus and that was that.

Then she thought a day I was opening up to her lol and said she I'm nice and that she likes me and hanging with me but doesn't think it is romantic annd she is sorry if she lead me on. But that same day she said she likes taking time and she has been in too few relationships and that she always chooses the wrong fellas. She said she just wants a good guy.

Btw I told her that I don't like girls just like that and that I prefer to take my time.

Do you think I should stop? Or keep pursuing her? Is she just testing me out?

Ok I have a quick story/text..

I met a girl and danced with her at a concert at a venue, on NYE. we kissed and made out at midnight. Went back to her place, her roomate passed out in her bed, so we had the footon in the living room.

Long story short, I got everything but the big show. (last minute slut defense). And i didn't know how to get by it...

Anyone I got her number, she dropped me off at my buddies place, kissed goodbye. I said "ill call you."

I textd her that day:

ME: "hey just makin sure I got your number right freckles." (giving nicknames is my cocky funny strategy)
HER: "oh haha ok"
ME: "Hope you had fun last night"
(Long delay, finally...)
ME "oh yeah it was a blast."

2 days later I texted her and asked if she wanted to go out again. NO RESPONSE! I tried one last time, no response I was over...

I am not sure what I did wrong? I respected her slut defense, she seemed super into me and even said so. IDK what happened.. Any advice would be great!

Nope.

I really don't worry about the salutation unless it is "bro", then that could be a problem there.

Just ignore what she's saying and carry on with the conversation. Eventually, buddy will be replaced by other things altogether.

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