You're always welcome back for more questions.

And thanks, for thinking of me.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Wsup Donny boi. Could you give me your expert opinion from reading my text convo? I wanna know if you think I'm doing the right things, or if I'm sounding too needy or nice, or just not being aggressive enough. The reason I say a lot of good things to her is because she kinda does the same and I feel like returning the favor. Please also let me know if you think there's mutual interest between us, or if there's a good chance she could just be having a friendly conversation w/ a friend. I kinda feel like there's interest, but I never like to get my hopes up, because a lot of times I end up being disappointed.

Her: Miss you!
Me: I know
Me: miss you too, are u having fun?
Her: Yea, kind of, its fun w/ the guys but i def need more girl friends lol
Me: Haha nothin wrong w/ being a tomboy! jk. wana watch entourage tmrw when i'm back, if u haven't seen it already?
Her: Yes! i'm completely down, I havent watched it yet either
Me: Yes! My plan to meet up w/ you worked.. lol
Her: How's home and family time?
Her: Hahaha! Shut up! You don't need a plan, I'd end up just texting you and coming over regardless lol
Her: Lol
Me: It's been nice, mainly family time
Her: that's good, tell them to not take you away so much. Man i'm competing w/ the family hahaha!

--stopped texting--

--next day--

Me: Ur awesome
Her:
Me: i missed u this wknd
Her: I missed you sooo much, its just not the same without you
Her: Lol
Me: lol shut up, stop being so cute. I missed u more
Her: Hahaha! You're awesome

I'm starting to like this girl a lot... but I'm afraid of it becoming a 1itis situation and I want to avoid that for sure. Any advice with that too? Thnx

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

Actually, this reminds me of my ex.. a great girl too. She was always open with her affection, and that made me open up with mine towards her. And since I ended up dating that girl, no you're not doing anything wrong.

She seems very interested in you and you can actually go a long way with her if you play your cards, right. Being lovey-dovey is fine, but not all the time. Sometimes, be serious and have those deep conversations too. Y'know, discuss something substantial with her, and make her discuss the important events in her life which happen or have happened. More than light, fun talking those are the discussions which build a mutual attraction the best.

You're being fine, don't worry. Just keep making her feel good with your messages. I remember reading this, and I never forget it :

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou

Truer words never said.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Question

It's ok to talk with girl two or three times in a week, througt messages?

I am assking that, because i heard advice from David Deangelo, that if you text messages every day you seem to be needy...

My situation:
I don't sent very much messages. And if i send, i write: i have on wednesday jogging and if you want, you may join me. And when we jogging we have a lot of conversation. OR: On sunday, if you have time, we can play tennis, and when we play i ussuly joking around and have fun.

I recently contacted a hot girl on facebook after finding out that we have some common interests. I suggested that we meet, which she wanted. We spent an hour together and had a pleasant conversation while I showed her around (she's new in her town).

Then I called her the other day and suggested that we meet again, which she wanted to. She was really tired, so she asked me if I could send her a reminder when I was back in town. However, she didn't reply to this message before the day after. Here are our SMS messages:

Me: "*Reminder* Hope you've catched up with your sleep deficit."

Her (24 hrs later): "Hi, I'm sorry for my late reply. I came back late today, and things got hectic the last few hours for various reasons. Have you left town? I still have an extreme sleep deficit, so I'm on my way to bed now "

Me: "Yes, I'm back in [my town]. Life as a lawyer is apparently hard. I slept 10 hrs last night, so if it were possible you could have bought a couple of hrs from me. Good night "

Her: "Haha, I wish that were possible Ah, what a shame. But we'll hopefully have more chances to meet. God night to you too! See you."

Me: (24 hrs later): "We'll see. Hah, now I got revenge for your your late reply! Next time you should send the message in a bottle, so that I will be notified while I'm in town "

Her: "Haha, if you knew me better you'd know that 24 hrs is really quick for being me Have a nice day!"


So, where do I go next? I could tease her and say something like "You're just playing htg", or I could suggest that she starts working as a municipal officer/bureaucrat instead (they're known for being slow at work).

Any suggestions?

It's OKAY to talk to a girl as much as you want, provided you both are having a conversation in which both people contribute equally.

It shouldn't be 10 messages from your end and two from hers, or vice-versa. I generally reply when I get a message. In the meantime, I just don't care. Look, it's simple if you feel that you both are developing a good, easy rapport over the conversation, it's not wrong to continue that for as long as you can. Those so-called gurus be damned.

The best seduction happens naturally. Not on some guru's advice.

Also, as for your texts.. start having more conversations with women through texts. Just using that mode of communication for setting up logistics won't always work. Think of it as a means to an end. Use the text game to make her get comfortable with you.

Good Luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, I gave you the reply already in your own thread. Here it is, in case you missed that :

I'd go with something along the line of, "Really? I guess I should be more appreciative of you. Y'know.. for finding some time to reply to messages from poor old me. "

Tease her a bit. And the wink conveys that you're not being serious. It's all joke and sarcasm here.


Go with that and let me know how she took it. But, use your own words, not mine. It will add a genuine touch to the statement that only belongs to you.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Over texts, I was making jokes to a girl about making her a music CD. She then said that music is her "soft-spot" and it would mean alot if I had actually made a CD about her. Mind you, I had just met her, so her level of interest was ridiculous.

Her: omg did you really make me a music CD because my music is my soft spot, or are you just kidding around

Me: THen you must have one muscular ass
If you keep asking, you'll never get it

Her: haha I knew you didn't make it!

I then go on Facebook, and inbox her

Me: Here's something for your "soft spot" this was the worst track on the CD btw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnPuY6GM ... lf=mh_lolz

Her: Alright alright decent song you got there lol but hey Im only gonna believe that you made that cd when I see it ahah (:

^ Next time we talk, should I mention the CD and tell her it's taking up space, I gotta give it to you, im tired of listening to the same amazing songs?

P.S. I don't actually have a CD

I went for my own solution:

Me: "Then you should consider leaving your job and start working as a government bureaucrat. Have a nice evening!"

Her: "To the contrary; with such a job I'd be a lot quicker because I'd have plenty of time left for answering private messages, and even getting paid for it Have a nice evening you too!"

Well, think of it, this way that she basically gave you the hint of the century when it comes to her and you can use that.

Even if you throw together a dozen tracks that she likes and burn them on a CD, she'll just swoon over you for the 'effort' you put in and the fact that 'you thought of her'.

If I were you, I'd use that tidbit and get some friend of mine to do the CD job for me and then deliver it to her on some said day and date. Maybe even get a kiss out of her, purely for that? Who knows?

Use that. Don't disregard it.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

sorry, can you explain the CD thing more clearly? You want me to ACTUALLY make a CD for her?

Well, see what happened there? She actually came out on top, by showing that she's smart and that gave her the better frame. My reply was meant to tease her by sarcastically thanking her for making time for you. It'd have got her to laugh, or maybe come back with another cute comment. None of those were bad things.

But never mind..


So, what happened next?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

The CD is actually going to be your shield breaker.

Women put up these shields all the time, trying to test the worth of the words which the guy tells her, trying to determine if he's being honest or just shitting with her. Those "bitch shields" and "shit tests" are all part of the same game, albeit with different names.

When you actually go ahead and make her a CD, she'll suddenly realise that well, this guy here is actually willing to make an effort for her, her defenses will automatically lower due to your gesture and she'll appreciate it more than you'll ever know or imagine.

And if you don't want to make the CD, well just ask some buddy who owes you a favor or another one who's into music to throw together some tracks and burn them on the disc. But, keep in mind to atleast get the information of her favourite artistes, so that you'll be in the green zone.

It's a simple rule but very effective rule of power :

" Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim. "

One CD and it saves considerable time you'll spend to build attraction and trust.

Get it?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey this girl I met back in the spring I ran into yesterday. I tried gaming her in the spring during a trip to the city but she turned me down. She was very hard to get. Plus she was drunk the whole trip


I ran into her yesterday on campus, we talked for a bit. She seemed like she found me attractive but I know I had to say the right things. I sent her a message later that day on facebook saying hey there, it was nice catching up with you. You're much easier to talk to when you're sober

She said haha It's a skill I have

I'm thinking about responding Well that's a quite uncommon skill. I'd like to find out what else you're good at.

What do you think?

Well, don't qualify her.

Tease her a little.

Something along the lines of, "Oh, don't flatter yourself. So, what other 'skills' do you possess, Miss, if I may ask? "

A little neg with the wink, shows her that you're kidding. So does the single quotes when you talk about her skills.

Aim for something similar. Just frame it in your words.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "